Everyone has a story and everyone can be part of each other’s story somewhere – People Hate You
Table of Contents
∘ 1. Hiding emotions
∘ 2. Being too nice
∘ 3. Humble bragging and self-promotion
∘ 4. Becoming increasingly tense, stressed
∘ 5. Not smiling
∘ 6. Pretending that you don’t like the other person even though you do
∘ 7. Having a name that is difficult to read
∘ 8. Mention celebrities often
∘ 9. Asking someone about yourself before they talk about you
∘ 10. Having many Facebook friends
You know you’re going to have a good time with someone within the first few seconds of seeing them.
Many of our relationships are based on those first moments when we see people. After that, everything else becomes important.
From your surname to your skin odour, from your diction to your gestures and facial expressions, everything plays a role in your relationship with the other person. Of course, some things cannot be changed, but science is also looking at the emotional changes that cause people to hate each other.
When the reasons why people hate each other are put together, 10 interesting things are listed:
1. Hiding emotions
It is better to behave in a way that is influenced by your true feelings.
People cannot form close relationships indiscriminately. They look for people who will give them the best return on their investment, and moments, when emotions are hidden, are coded as uncertainty and indifference.
In this way, the result is frustration.
2. Being too nice
You may say, “My feelings demand it, if I feel the need to treat someone nicely, I will.”
Have you heard about the “repulsion of altruism”?
It is the same both in groups of friends and in intimate relationships.
The more altruistic you are, the more uncomfortable the other person is.
It is useful to keep a good dose.
3. Humble bragging and self-promotion
Some people secretly brag through self-criticism to impress friends and potential employers.
A recent Harvard Business School study warns of the dire consequences of this behaviour. It says that it is especially important to be transparent with your interviewers during a job interview.
4. Becoming increasingly tense, stressed
Even the smell of sweat changes when you are angry.
In other words, this condition has not only a psychological but also a chemical effect.
Stress-induced sweating gives biological warnings to your immediate environment.
At the same time, even if you hide your stress, if someone feels it, don’t be strange, they have already received the warning.
5. Not smiling
Smiling is difficult for most people, especially in tense situations.
We all know that relationships built with a smile are more sincere.
It is also less likely that a person you meet with a smile will forget you.
6. Pretending that you don’t like the other person even though you do
When we think someone likes us, we tend to like them too.
The same can be explained by the fact that the loved one in a group begins to feel affection for that group.
Even if love starts unilaterally, it is not an ongoing process unless it is reciprocated.
Concealing love allows the other person to experience several of the above points at the same time:
Because you hide your feelings, they feel insincere and the feeling of insecurity increases.
If you don’t show the love you feel, you potentially end it.
7. Having a name that is difficult to read
It might be the most ridiculous item on the list and I think it’s really unfair.
If you evaluate how you feel about easy-to-read names like Mike or Lisa and hard-to-read names like Vougiouklakis and Leszczynska, then it’s true.
In conclusion, you are lucky if you have an easy-to-read and memorable name.
8. Mention celebrities often
It may make sense to bet on celebrities to win or lose the attention of the people you talk to, but sometimes it doesn’t
A phenomenon called “Name-Dropping” is said to be a source of distrust.
Even mentioning that you are a relative of someone famous falls under this category.
9. Asking someone about yourself before they talk about you
This article deals with a feature similar to self-disclosure.
This identification should be mutual between individuals.
Otherwise, if you ask questions about yourself to people who don’t give a damn about you, you’re just making the relationship worse.
It only takes one thing for the process to be mutual. And that is “Love”.
10. Having many Facebook friends
Facebook!” I hear you say.
The average number of friends for a person at a normal social level is 300–350.
If your number of friends is much higher than that, people will start to envy you and hate you.
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