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  • How A Beautiful Red Dressing Gown Has Changed All of Our Lives

    How A Beautiful Red Dressing Gown Has Changed All of Our Lives

    The Diderot Effect or Domino Effect in Our Life and Consumption

    Many inventions and designs are the result of coincidence.
    The drop of an apple on your head or the purchase of a red dressing gown can change your life and the course of history.

    Now let’s take a detailed look at how a beautiful red dressing gown has changed all of our lives.

    Who is Denis Diderot?

    The Diderot Effect is named after the French philosopher and writer Denis Diderot.

    Living between 1713 and 1784, Denis Diderot was one of the most important figures of the Age of Enlightenment and a pioneer of the Romanticism movement.

    As the chief editor of the Encyclopedia, which was designed to educate and develop the public, Diderot played a major role in the development and socialization of 18th century intellectuals.

    Diderot, who wrote dozens of works during his lifetime, made many contributions to literature as well as philosophy.

    What is the Diderot Effect?

    The Diderot Effect, in short, is a concept used to explain that every new thing we buy encourages us to buy other new things.

    Why the ‘Diderot Effect’?

    Denis Diderot, in his essay ‘Regrets for my old dressing gown’, described the consumption dilemma he had fallen into.

    Since Diderot was the first person to talk about the consumption dilemma caused by buying things without needing them, this dilemma or cycle is called the Diderot Effect.

    Diderot’s Experience

    The story is told in two versions: One is that the dressing gown was a gift, the other that she bought it herself.

    The Russian Empress Catherine the Great bought the library of Diderot, whom she heard was having financial problems. She asked him to keep the library in his home and made Diderot her librarian, paying his salary for 25 years in advance.

    Diderot, who pays off his debts and becomes comfortable as a result of this help, buys an elegant dressing gown (or an elegant dressing gown is gifted to Diderot by a friend).

    When Diderot puts on the dressing gown, he thinks that the things in his house do not suit the dressing gown, that they are old and do not match the dressing gown. So he changes his desk, the pictures on the wall, his armchair. Soon he had replaced almost all the furniture in his house with new ones, but he was in debt again.

    Realizing his predicament, Diderot describes the impulse that drove him to buy things he didn’t need in his essay ‘Regret for my old dressing gown’.

    ‘Why didn’t I hide him? He was used to me and I to him… He hugged every curve of my body. The other one is stiff and starched, it makes me look bulky. But the old one met all my needs.I could wipe dusty books with its skirt. The lines on it spoke of literature, the writer, the working man. But now I have the air of a useless rich man. No one knows who I am. I wasn’t afraid to be clumsy in it. I went from being the absolute master of my old robe to the slave of the new one… Damn this precious garment I used to respect and admire. Where is my old, common cloth, modest, comfortable rag?… My friends, keep your old friends. My friends, beware of wealth touching you. Let my situation be an example to you. Poverty has its freedoms, wealth has its drawbacks… That’s not all, my friends. Look at the ravages of luxury, the consequences of ever-increasing luxury. My old robe was in harmony with the other junk around me. A wicker chair; a wooden table; an old bookcase with a few books; a few unframed, sooty engravings; a few pieces of plaster lifted into the air between these engravings, all this was in harmony with my old robe. Now everything is broken, harmony, unity and beauty are gone!’

    Diderot Completeness

    Every new object we buy does not harmonize with other objects in the place where it is located/used.
    In order to create harmony and integrity with the new object, it is desirable to replace other old and worn objects with new ones.
    The real impact and value of objects carry meaning and functionality within a whole (Diderot Integrity).

    The Importance of the Diderot Effect and the Gestalt Approach

    The Diderot Effect has an important place in cultural anthropology, psychology and sociology as it describes both the desire for shopping in all times and the current consumer frenzy.

    Let’s think about ourselves in the simplest way. We don’t want to use any clothes or items unless they fit the fashion, the era, a certain concept or our style. This is the Diderot Integrity.

    The Diderot Effect is when each purchase triggers each other, for a simple example, when we buy shoes, bags, buckles and jewelry to match our new dress, or even a new coat. We probably didn’t need the new shoes, bag and coat. The entire purchase was made without conscious thought, just to fit in.

    On the other hand, the cultural codes we adopt impose harmony and completeness. This, in turn, greatly influences or determines our willingness and behavior to buy and own. Because, consciously or unconsciously, we seek to acquire the whole.

    The human search for wholeness is in line with the Gestalt Principles put forward in the 20th century: Holism leads to a more meaningful and valuable outcome. As long as human beings do not attain wholeness, they feel incomplete and deprived. As a result, they strive to achieve wholeness.

    Two Dimensions of the Diderot Effect

    When a consumer buys a product, he or she buys new products related to that product to complete the whole.
    For example, a new house and new furniture, a new dress and new accessories, new clothes that we think are appropriate for that status after a promotion, etc.

    Avoidance of new purchases is also a secondary dimension. The person may also develop the behavior of not buying new products out of concern that it will disrupt the integrity.

    Two Assumptions of the Diderot Effect on Shopping Habits

    The products we buy are part of our character, they reflect our social status and identity. They complement our other purchases.
    We need to create a new group for the new product that we buy and that is not like what we had before. So we start buying other new products to complement the new product.

    How to deal with the Diderot Effect?

    In a world based on consumption, where having more, higher models, better and the ‘latest’ is a status indicator, we first need to change our mindset.

    We can ask ourselves some questions before shopping:

    Does the product I have meet my needs?
    Do I really need this product?
    What am I paying for?
    Creating the perception that you can buy ‘happiness, joy, energy, beauty, …’ with a product (selling a philosophy or lifestyle) is nothing new.

    Keep in mind that what you are buying is just an object. No object can make you a better, happier person or make you more loved and admired.

  • 10 Facts That Make People Hate You

    10 Facts That Make People Hate You

    Everyone has a story and everyone can be part of each other’s story somewhere – People Hate You

    You know you’re going to have a good time with someone within the first few seconds of seeing them. 

    Many of our relationships are based on those first moments when we see people. After that, everything else becomes important.

    From your surname to your skin odour, from your diction to your gestures and facial expressions, everything plays a role in your relationship with the other person. Of course, some things cannot be changed, but science is also looking at the emotional changes that cause people to hate each other. 

    When the reasons why people hate each other are put together, 10 interesting things are listed:

    1. Hiding emotions

    It is better to behave in a way that is influenced by your true feelings.

    People cannot form close relationships indiscriminately. They look for people who will give them the best return on their investment, and moments, when emotions are hidden, are coded as uncertainty and indifference.

    In this way, the result is frustration.

    2. Being too nice

    You may say, “My feelings demand it, if I feel the need to treat someone nicely, I will.”

    Have you heard about the “repulsion of altruism”?

    It is the same both in groups of friends and in intimate relationships.

    The more altruistic you are, the more uncomfortable the other person is.

    It is useful to keep a good dose.

    3. Humble bragging and self-promotion

    Some people secretly brag through self-criticism to impress friends and potential employers.

    A recent Harvard Business School study warns of the dire consequences of this behaviour. It says that it is especially important to be transparent with your interviewers during a job interview.

    4. Becoming increasingly tense, stressed

    Even the smell of sweat changes when you are angry. 
    In other words, this condition has not only a psychological but also a chemical effect.

    Stress-induced sweating gives biological warnings to your immediate environment.

    At the same time, even if you hide your stress, if someone feels it, don’t be strange, they have already received the warning.

    5. Not smiling

    Smiling is difficult for most people, especially in tense situations.

    We all know that relationships built with a smile are more sincere.

    It is also less likely that a person you meet with a smile will forget you.

    6. Pretending that you don’t like the other person even though you do

    When we think someone likes us, we tend to like them too.

    The same can be explained by the fact that the loved one in a group begins to feel affection for that group.

    Even if love starts unilaterally, it is not an ongoing process unless it is reciprocated.

    Concealing love allows the other person to experience several of the above points at the same time:

    Because you hide your feelings, they feel insincere and the feeling of insecurity increases.

    If you don’t show the love you feel, you potentially end it.

    7. Having a name that is difficult to read

    It might be the most ridiculous item on the list and I think it’s really unfair.

    If you evaluate how you feel about easy-to-read names like Mike or Lisa and hard-to-read names like Vougiouklakis and Leszczynska, then it’s true.

    In conclusion, you are lucky if you have an easy-to-read and memorable name.

    8. Mention celebrities often

    It may make sense to bet on celebrities to win or lose the attention of the people you talk to, but sometimes it doesn’t

    A phenomenon called “Name-Dropping” is said to be a source of distrust.

    Even mentioning that you are a relative of someone famous falls under this category.

    9. Asking someone about yourself before they talk about you

    This article deals with a feature similar to self-disclosure.

    This identification should be mutual between individuals.

    Otherwise, if you ask questions about yourself to people who don’t give a damn about you, you’re just making the relationship worse.

    It only takes one thing for the process to be mutual. And that is “Love”.

    10. Having many Facebook friends

    Facebook!” I hear you say.

    The average number of friends for a person at a normal social level is 300–350.

    If your number of friends is much higher than that, people will start to envy you and hate you.

  • Million Dollar Secret of Life “Laws of Attraction”

    Million Dollar Secret of Life “Laws of Attraction”

    “Imagination is everything, it is the preview of life‘s coming attractions.” — Albert Einstein. (Laws of Attraction)

    Every thought is an energy. We are radiating energy into the universe at every moment.(Laws of Attraction)

    This energy that we emit moment by moment has the ability to manifest all our desires or fears.

    Energies turn our thoughts into reality.

    The energies sent to the universe look for the energy of the same frequency with itself. It finds the thought that is in the same resonance with our thoughts.

    With the power of thoughts, we attract to ourselves what we think of ourselves and others in our life.

    We send orders to the universe with our thoughts and the energy emitted by our thoughts. It has nothing to do with whether we want it or not. The law works as long as we live.

    According to the law of attraction, your thoughts have to come true.

    Usually, because energies have no will or consciousness of their own, they go wherever they are sent.

    The energy sent into the universe only seeks energy of the same frequency, regardless of how important our desire is to us, how small it is, or how big a desire it is.

    So in summary, whatever you think about or focus on, you get.

    If you don’t like a situation, a person, or an event that has happened to you, if you constantly complain or judge, you will quickly attract these situations to you. Or, if you approach events positively and maintain your positive point of view in every situation, you will attract more positive situations that make us happy.

    In short, you reap what you sow in your field of thought.

    If you change your thoughts, the quality of your life also changes.

    Isn’t that difficult? How will we be in a constant state of positive thinking? A question may arise.

    For a person who has been a prisoner of negative thoughts and ego for years, it may not be easy to suddenly gain a positive perspective, but it is possible with some practices.

    Even changing our colloquial language allows us to use the law of attraction for our highest good.

    Here below I’m going to share some examples with you for better understanding.

    Instead of wanting to get sick,

    I am always very healthy.

    Instead of wanting to be unhappy,

    I am always very peaceful and happy.

    Instead of being afraid of failing,

    I am always hardworking and successful.

    Instead of being afraid of being broke,

    I always live for abundance.

    It is very important to say and make them a habit.

    There is something else as important as changing our daily spoken language, to increase our life energy. We need to start each day with a different excitement, happiness, and enthusiasm, and be able to keep our hearts moving.

    For this, we should give plenty of space to the feelings of love and gratitude in our lives.

    We should be grateful for what we have had. Gratitude is one of the most powerful magic to be happy.

    What other your “laws of attraction” methods ? Share them with us in the comments.