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  • Reading Body Language of People?

    Reading Body Language of People?

    Your body language tells more than you realized.(Reading Body Language)

    Here is a question for you before starting my article.(Reading Body Language)

    Do you know what your body just said?

    If your answer is NO, don’t worry. After reading my learning series for body language, from now you will understand what your and others tell you.

    Don’t forget to follow me for the next shares about the learning series of “Reading Body Language”

    I’m going to share my important notes from “Reading Body Language” courses that what I learned from professional trainers.

    I have lots of notes and really hard to share them all in one article so I’ll publish my notes in a few articles as learning series.

    I’ll help you become a more effective communicator, you’ll be more aware of the messages in your body and you’ll discover how to align those nonverbal statements with your leadership goals.

    I’ll cover the ways in which the body space, tone of voice, and even your feet and add credibility to what you’re saying.

    I’ll also talk about the two sets of nonverbal signals that we all look for in leaders and you’ll find out how to project confidence even when you’re feeling uncertain I’m eager to work with you.

    Imagine that you’re the Chief Executive Officer of an oil company and you just arrived at the refinery to speak to a group of operators of patricians and warehouse workers.

    They’re all dressed in fire-retardant and you’re wearing a designer’s suit and power tie. you remove your expensive wristwatch and turn your unspoken messages.

    I’m a very important person and I have exactly twenty minutes to spend with you that message is of course quite different from the words you use to begin your comments.

    I’m so happy to be with you today which do you think the refinery workers will believe your words are your body language.

    here’s what research finds when your body language doesn’t match your words your verbal message is lost.

    When your words say one thing and your gestures indicate another then you don’t make sense.

    When forced to choose between your verbal and nonverbal messages people instinctively believe what they see and not what you say.

    That’s why it’s crucial for you to communicate congruently that when you say something with your body language that must support your words as well.

    Otherwise, people become confused and these mixed messages have a negative effect on performance and make it almost impossible to build relationships of trust if you stand in front of the groups.

    Talk about how much you welcome their efforts.

    If you have a forced smile or lean away from the group or don’t maintain eye contact all of these are disengaged signals when your intended message is about inclusiveness.

    Then there’s the matter of timing If you gesture just before as you speak then you appear to be open.

    however, if you speak first and then gesture as I’ve seen many others do is unconsciously proceed.

    In this situation, you remember me and at that point, the validity of whatever you’re saying comes Under Suspicion.

    What other signals have you followed to read body language in your life?

  • Are We Living In Simulation?

    Are We Living In Simulation?

    Irrefutable Reasons We Might Be A Living In Simulation

    What are we in this universe?” , “Are we living creatures in a simulation created ? “ or “Are we really living a real life?” (Living In Simulation)

    Of course, I can’t answer those questions with certainty but I can convince you of that by reaching the real creator.

    “What are we in the universe?” Just before the answer to this question, there is a more important question to answer. “Why are we here?” and “Why does human exist?

    There must be a reason for it to exist.

    Does our universe is just a laboratory experiment?

    Are we really the subjects in this experiment?

    As some say that could Earth be the work of a much more advanced civilization than ours?

    Let’s look together for Irrefutable reasons to find answers to those questions.

    1. The Mandela Effect

    Some people claim to remember TV coverage of Nelson Mandela’s death in the 1980s even though he actually died in 2013. The “Mandela Effect” is therefore supposedly proof that whoever is in charge of our simulation is changing the past. (Or alternately, this is evidence of parallel universes and some individuals have crossed from one universe, in which Mandela died in the ’80s, into ours, where he lived to age 95.) Additional examples of this phenomenon include some remembering the name of the Berenstain Bears children’s-book series being spelled as “Berenstein” and others recalling a nonexistent movie from the 1990s called Shazaam, starring the comedian Sinbad as a genie.

    2. Video Games That Look Like Real Life

    Elon Musk is a believer in Nick Bostrom’s simulation hypothesis, which posits that if humanity can survive long enough to create technology capable of running convincing simulations of reality, it will create many such simulations and therefore there will be lots of simulated realities and only one “base reality” — so statistically, it’s probably more likely we live in a simulation right now. Further proof that we live in the Matrix, according to Musk, is how cool video games are these days. In 2016, he explained: “40 years ago, we had Pong. Two rectangles and a dot. Now, 40 years later, we have photorealistic 3D with millions playing simultaneously. If you assume any rate of improvement at all, then the games will become indistinguishable from reality, even if that rate of advancement drops by 1,000 from what it is now. It’s a given that we’re clearly on a trajectory that we’re going to have games that are indistinguishable from reality. It would seem to follow that the odds that we’re in base reality is 1 in billions.”

    3. Weird News

    Some have proposed that recent unlikelihoods, including Donald Trump’s election, Brexit, the 2017 Oscars-envelope mix-up, and that year’s 25-point Super Bowl comeback, could mean we’re in a malfunctioning simulation or whoever is pushing the buttons is screwing with us.

    4. The “Goldilocks Zone”

    Earth exists within what astrobiologists call a Goldilocks Zone, close enough to a star that greenhouse gases can trap heat to keep liquid water, but far enough away that the planet does not become a Venusian hothouse. That we live in such an orbital sweet spot is circumstantial evidence for a simulation: If our sim-designers wanted us to succeed, it makes sense that they’d place us in such a cushy environment.

    5. We Already Know What the “Bricks” of Our Matrix Are

    According to simulation believers, we may have already found the pixel-sized building block of the universe: the Planck-length, the point at which our concepts of gravity and spacetime no longer apply. If our world is simulated, the Planck length would be equivalent to one bit of information, or a pixel.

  • 5 Tips for Deal To Aggressive People

    5 Tips for Deal To Aggressive People

    These tips always work for me.(Aggressive People)

    What is the most common difficult behavior is aggression.(Aggressive People)
    The first question is do I want to find a way to live with this person’s aggressive behavior.

    I want to get them to change how much power you have if an aggressive person is your boss or a customer.

    Then you might decide it’s easier to live with it.

    You might decide to try to change them if that doesn’t work then you still have the option of finding a way to live with it.

    I want to suggest 5 techniques that each of these approaches.

    1. Be Assertive

    When communicating with an aggressive colleague, try to be assertive. Even if that’s not how you talk to everyone else, be sure to be assertive when dealing with an aggressive coworker. Anagha explained the reason behind this and said,

    “Aggressive people tend to dominate or bully a passive communicator into submission.”

    2. File A Complaint

    Pay attention to if this person’s behavior is affecting the quality of your work. If the answer is yes, you should consider filing an official complaint with the human resources department. Your work performance should not be affected because of another employee and if that scenario arises then you can definitely let HR know about it.

    3. Maintain Distance

    Just because you both work at the same company doesn’t mean you have to be around each other. If the said colleague is not a part of your immediate team, you should definitely maintain distance intentionally. This will allow you your peace of mind and won’t let their actions bother you as the communication is minimum.

    4. Manage Your Expectations

    You have to remember what you expect won’t be the outcome always. Even though you’re assertive with them, it does not mean your assertiveness will change them. So, don’t expect them to just change. Instead, focus on creating boundaries.

    5. Don’t Take It Personally

    Dealing with an aggressive colleague can take a toll on you. Especially because of the things they might say in anger. But you have to remember that it is something that they need to deal with, it has nothing to do with you. Avoid internalizing the mean things they may say out of anger.

    What other tips have you found useful for dealing with aggressive people? Please share in the comments.

  • Deeper Sleep – Which Steps Need To Do

    Deeper Sleep – Which Steps Need To Do

    These Ways Are Really Working and Worth To Try(Deeper Sleep)

    There are people out there who wake up by themselves in the morning, don’t press the snooze even if they wake up with an alarm, don’t make their way to the coffee machine first thing with zombie-like eyes half-open, and even feel rested and happy as soon as they wake up. (Deeper Sleep)

    Unfortunately, research says many of us are not part of this rare sleep unicorn team:

    Two-thirds of adults in developed countries are not getting the recommended and required eight hours of sleep. Matthew Walker, a British scientist, neuroscientist, and author of Why We Sleep: The New Science of Sleep and Dreams, says the results of insomnia will surprise us:

    “Routically getting less than six or seven hours of sleep disrupts your immune system and doubles your cancer risk. “

    1. Digital Detox in the Bedroom

    It should be noted that silence and darkness are very important elements in bedrooms to make it easier to fall asleep and sleep soundly. Any electronic device that emits blue light should not be in the room.

    “The rays emitted by mobile phones and tablets prevent the secretion of melatonin, the main hormone of sleep. In addition, social media applications, messages, and work-related e-mails on mobile phones occupy the mind and make it difficult to sleep. Any electronic device should be left out of the room.”

    We can say that falling asleep watching something on TV and PC is not good and, as it will arouse feelings such as stress, fear, and curiosity.

    Considering that the blue light emitted from electronics accelerates the aging process of our skin, it is the best decision to do a digital detox, at least during sleep.

    2. Back to Alarm Clock

    So how do we wake up if the cell phone is out of the bedroom? In an ideal world, we may wake up spontaneously or, better yet, whenever we want, but in today’s lifestyle, an alarm-free life is not possible for the vast majority.

    We should prefer non-illuminated and silent alarm clocks to mobile phone alarms.

    It is important for heart and nervous system health that we wake up once the alarm goes off. “When the alarm goes off, as if stimulating your heart wasn’t harmful enough, by repeatedly pressing the snooze button, you inflict a repeated shock to the cardiovascular system over a short period of time.

    When you think about repeating this at least five days a week, you can understand the stress your heart and nervous system have been going through throughout your life.”

    3. Invitation to Siesta

    Although experts say that sleep during the day is not ideal on the grounds that it disrupts the body rhythm, the anthropological, biological, and genetic evidence of research shows that biphasic sleep, which consists of a long sleep at night and a short nap in the afternoon, is suitable for human natural rhythm. We may think that leaving the siesta culture, which is still accepted in some South American and Mediterranean countries, is not very beneficial for health.

    “Before the millennium there was high pressure in Greece to break the habit of napping. To observe the consequences of this radical change, researchers from Harvard University’s Department of Public Health observed 23,000 Greek adults, men, and women aged 20 to 83, with a focus on heart health.

    The results were heartbreaking, just like the Greek tragedies, but literally! As a result of this research conducted with individuals with no heart health problems, it was revealed that the risk of dying from heart disease increased by 37 percent in those who gave up their afternoon naps.

    Quitting biphasic sleep, which is an instinctive habit for human beings, shortens our lifespan,” says the author, adding that it is not surprising that on the Greek island of Ikaria, where the siesta is still the norm today, men are four times more likely to reach the age of 90 than American men. In addition, daytime sleep has many benefits besides protecting heart health: Strengthening memory and reducing muscle fatigue.

    It is even known that world-famous athlete Usain Bolt had a siesta before breaking the world record and before the Olympics, where he won a gold medal.

    4. Those Who Wake Up Tired

    You slept for eight hours and in the ideal environment, but the energy you hoped to have when you wake up is not there?

    The physiological cause of the inability to rest and sleep may be breathing problems such as sleep apnea, which is often defined as cessation of breathing during sleep.

    Even though a person seems to be sleeping for a sufficient amount of time, when they have sleep apnea, they cannot sleep deeply enough, productively, and restfully.

    It is common for these people to snore and the bed partner to notice the patient’s breathing pause during sleep. Sleep apnea can lead to many systemic disorders, especially heart diseases. If in doubt, definitely go to a sleep center and have polysomnography, which is a sleep test.

    5. Evening Coffee Problem

    We all know that coffee delays sleep a little. What if we prefer decaffeinated coffee in the evening? Walker says that caffeine doesn’t actually induce sleep and blocks the sleep signal in the brain just as we stop sounds by plugging our ears with our fingers.

    Stating that the half-life of coffee (a term used to indicate the half-life of the effect when describing the effects of drugs) is between five and seven hours on average, Walker said, “For example, let’s say you drank a cup of coffee around 19:30 after dinner.

    At 1:30 am after midnight, half the caffeine may still be actively circulating in your system. So you’re saving your brain only half of that after-dinner coffee at that hour.” Tea, energy drinks, dark chocolate, ice cream, weight loss pills, and some pain relievers, as well as decaffeinated coffee, are among the factors that can prevent falling asleep.

    “One cup of decaffeinated coffee contains between 15 and 30 percent of the caffeine of regular coffee.

    So if you drink a few cups of decaffeinated coffee in the evening, it will do the same damage to your sleep as caffeinated coffee.”

  • Learn New Languages – How I Trick My Brain

    Learn New Languages – How I Trick My Brain

    Learning a new foreign language is more useful and fun than you might imagine.(Learn New Languages)

    I’m advanced level at English and it’s not my native language.

    But as you see that my blog is English and I do not have any problem to spread my ideas and suggestion to all over the world.

    Within my new role as Global Manager since last year, I have started to learn German since beginning this year as well.

    During my learning journey of any languages , I try to use those methods to trick my brain and they really work for me.

    Here are the top four ways to trick your brain into learning English or other languages ​​faster:

    Create a sense of urgency
    A common complaint when learning a new language? Definitely a lack of time.

    After a tiring day at work or school, your brain is exposed to an excessive amount of information. Therefore, it may refuse to learn a new language. Because it does not want to spend extra energy.

    So, what should you do in such a situation?

    Join an English training class

    Online or classic, it doesn’t matter. Our goal here is for someone to hold you and therefore your brain responsible. Taking language lessons with other people, especially with a classroom and a teacher, will put a healthy strain on your brain.

    Track and share your progress

    Have you ever thought of recording yourself as audio or video to keep track of your progress? How about sharing your latest essay, letter or favourite phrase on social media? Twitter has a large language learning community and several Facebook groups to keep you going and sharing.

    Don’t give your brain a chance to escape your target language

    Listening to music on the way to school or work, watching movies on the weekends, reading a magazine during breakfast or posting on social media in your target language are all great ways to start learning.

    You can label objects around the house using post-it notes in English, Germany, Spanish or any other foreign language you want to learn. This way you are exposed to new words all day. The main purpose here is to convey messages to your brain that tell you to use this language.

    Knowing that the easiest and most efficient way to learn a foreign language is to learn that language on site, consciously go to a language school.

    This tendency will show you that you can easily learn a new language or improve your current language much faster.

    The more exposure you have to a language, the faster you can learn it. So give yourself a chance and meet a new language and a brand new culture.

    To learn a foreign language easily, study a language in that country.

  • 15 Body Language Signals Successful People Never Do

    15 Body Language Signals Successful People Never Do

    This is My Lifestyle, I Can’t Stop Myself Without Reading Body Language During The Day (Body Language Signals)

    1. Hump ​​Stance (Body Language Signals)

    This movement is one of the most obvious movements that shows that you are bored with the environment you are in.

    Never say to your boss, “I don’t understand what you’re saying, but I have to listen to you!”

    You don’t say it, but remember that you have a body that says it in front of you!

    2. Exaggerated Gestures

    Exaggerated gestures will also make the other person think that you are misrepresenting the truth or that you are exaggerating more than necessary.

    To avoid this, choosing more controlled and small gestures will show that you are conveying the truth completely to the other person.

    3. Checking the Clock

    Checking your watch while talking to someone will be perceived as one of the most disrespectful things to do.

    This gesture will show the other person that you have more important things to do than talk to them or that you can’t wait to finish talking to them.

    4. Looking Away

    During a conversation or meeting, being busy with other things instead of taking care of the speaker is also one action that can make you lose credibility.

    Instead of a move that will make you lose your credit, turning towards the person speaking in a way that shows that you are listening and not being interested in other things will make you successful.

    5. Clasping Your Arms

    Even if you’re laughing while listening to someone, crossing your arms or legs is a body language gesture that will show you don’t agree with what they are saying.

    Even if it makes you comfortable, it will be important to clearly position yourself for this move.

    6. Inconsistency

    The inconsistency between what you say and what you do is also among the factors that will keep you away from success.

    Using body language that supports what you say will make you profitable, especially at bargaining tables.

    7. Exaggerated Confirmation

    Nodding is somewhat comforting;

    But when it comes to exaggerating this affirmation, things change.

    With this exaggerated act, he will draw the conclusion that you actually do not approve.

    8. Playing With Hair Too Much

    Playing with your hair too much will make you feel nervous or too energetic.

    Or people will think you care more about your physical appearance than your career.

    To prevent this, it is necessary not to overdo it when playing with your hair.

    9. Avoiding Eye Contact

    Averting your eyes indicates that you are hiding something or suspecting something.

    It is also an important body language mistake that can create the perception of low self-esteem.

    Maintaining enough eye contact will also give the impression that you are interested and self-confident.

    10. Making Too Much Eye Contact

    Avoiding eye contact can lead to false results, and exaggerating eye contact can lead to false results.

    The perception of this by the other person is the impression of someone trying to be aggressive and dominant.

    11. Taking Care of Your Environment too Much

    Listening with whirling eyes will constitute a disrespectful gesture.

    Instead, it will always be healthier to make more controlled eye contact.

    12. Getting Angry

    Remember that you will look angry to the other person when your eyebrows are frowning.

    However, smiling makes the other person feel that you are an open and reliable person.

    13. Weak Handshake

    A weak handshake is indicative of weak self-confidence and weak authority.

    A strong handshake is always ideal, depending on the situation, as too much will obviously be harmful.

    14. Clenched Fists

    Clenched fists show a defensive position, just as your arms and feet are clenched.

    15. Getting Too Close

    Standing too close to someone is a gesture that shows you don’t respect their personal space. No closer than a step and a half will often be a good signal.

    To sum it all up, avoiding these moves will help you build more successful relationships in both your personal and professional life.

    I hope it helps your career and relationships…

  • Apply Butterfly Chaos Effect To Daily Life

    Apply Butterfly Chaos Effect To Daily Life

    Small Things Can Have A Big Impact (Chaos Effect)

    The butterfly effect is the name given to small changes in the initial data of a system that can have large and unpredictable results.(Chaos Effect)

    The so-called butterfly effect was discovered by Edward N. Lorenz in 1963 when he was making a calculation about the weather. So how did he find it?

    When Lorenz was calculating the weather, he first used the number 0.506127 as the starting number of the event.

    In the second calculation, the number 0.506 was accepted as the starting point. So there was a one-thousandth difference between the two numbers.

    In other words, this ratio expresses the same probability as the wind created by the flapping of a butterfly’s wings.

    However, despite this difference; While the process is taking place, the value used in the 2nd calculation causes a very different situation when the result is reached.

    In other words, although the numbers are very close to each other, there are differences in the results. Lorenz called this “chaos theory”.

    In non-linear systems, a very small difference in inputs can cause huge differences in outputs.

    Edward N. Lorenz, in an example of the butterfly effect, said, “A butterfly flapping its wings in the Amazon Forest can cause a storm break in the USA.

    For a different example, the flapping of a butterfly’s wings could cause a hurricane that could travel halfway around the Earth.” he said.

    The name of chaos theory, on the other hand, refers to the growth of a created chaos.

    Lorenz notices this effect in the weather forecast he is trying to put forward and observes that there are many different variables in this forecast and it becomes very complex.

    In short, even very small probabilities can lead to a very different estimation.

    So he arrives at the theory that only short-term weather forecasts can be made.

    Why is it called the butterfly effect?

    The butterfly expression in the example Lorenz used to describe the chaos theory caused this theory to be called the butterfly effect.

    However, this statement, which cannot be proven, remains in theory.

    This situation is often used as an example when a small impact can cause chaos.

    When we apply the butterfly effect to daily life, the result is that every move made is valuable.

    Things that seem small can have a big impact.

  • Success in Life – 9 Steps That Provided Me To Achieve

    Success in Life – 9 Steps That Provided Me To Achieve

    Many years ago, I’ve cached a chance to read suggestions about success from Christensen. (Success in Life)

    So that from my perspective, He who best describes how successful a person is in life and how to measure it is Harvard Business School professor Clayton Christensen.

    According to Chirstensen, there are 9 steps to living and measuring a successful life:

    I’m going to share those brilliant ways that also what I used for my successful journey in my life with you.

    1- As a first step, one should realize what motivates you in life.

    For example, if a person who enjoys discovering new places and meeting new people – just because his income is higher – is confined to a desk job, he will experience great dissatisfaction.

    Therefore, finding one’s passion is more important than finding a job.

    First of all, one has to find out what motivates him.

    2- Second, a person must set a goal for himself and move forward in line with this goal.

    In order to be successful, it is essential for a person to stick to the goal he has determined and the path (strategy) that will lead to this goal, despite the difficulties and obstacles that come his way.

    Because without perseverance, success cannot be achieved.

    But there are situations when the account at home does not fit real life.

    Sometimes life throws up such obstacles that it is impossible to overcome them.

    In such a situation, insisting on the same strategy for the same goal is a waste of resources.

    As Seneca said, “We may not be able to determine the direction of the wind, but we can change the direction of our ship by adjusting our sails to the wind.”

    3- The third issue that Christensen recommends we pay attention to is managing the resources we have effectively.

    Human resources are not just monetary resources.

    Humans have resources such as health, time, abilities, knowledge, experience, friends and social relationships.

    4- The fourth is the time that a person spares for his family and friends.

    A person is happy to the extent that he spends enough time with his loved ones and spends full time with them.

    While most people are trying to make a place for themselves in life, to reach a goal, they ignore their loved ones and neglect them.

    5- Fifth is the development of human empathy.

    In both private and business relationships, a person should always act by putting himself in the place of the other person.

    If a person can understand the perspectives of the people with whom he is in a relationship and look at life through their eyes, it opens the doors to be both very successful and very happy.

    6- The sixth is to raise one’s children correctly. I think the most important responsibility of a person in life – if any – is to educate his children.

    Every parent has to ensure the physical and mental development of their children within their means, as well as support their spiritual maturation.

    7- In order to be successful, a person must both have certain values ​​and act in accordance with these values.

    The abstract concept we call “values” is actually the compass behind our daily decisions.

    For example, a person who adopts honesty as a value prefers to tell the truth when faced with the dilemma of “making money-hiding the truth”.

    The person who cares about making money does the opposite.

    8- According to Christensen, a very important issue in managing our lives is to be humble.

    Most people unconsciously walk around with an inflated ego.

    An inflated ego not only causes one to like himself or exaggerate what he has done but worse than that, it causes him to underestimate others.

    9- As a result of all these, the real measure of a person’s success is the benefit he provides to other people.

    According to Christensen, the measure of a person’s success is not the money he has earned or the fame he has achieved, but how much he has contributed positively to other people’s lives.

    Charles Handy said, “A tombstone showing how many millions of dollars a person in the ground has earned won’t impress any of the passers-by. What matters is what he does with the millions he earns.”