Tag: personal development

  • How To Stop Postponing And Get Work Done

    How To Stop Postponing And Get Work Done

    Postponing is to miss out on life. (Stop Postponing)

    Psychologists agree that “procrastination” has deeper causes than meets the eye.(Stop Postponing)

    Many behavioural scientists point out that the root cause of procrastination is childhood.

    He says that the oppressive and harsh behaviour of the parents prevents the child from doing his duties willingly.

    The child, who is treated harshly, reacts by behaving “as if he is doing it”, “hanging around”, “hanging around”, and “taking it slow”.

    Managers in the workplace have a similar effect on employees.

    Instead of values ​​and principles, managers who want to discipline, judge and blame by intimidating cause employees to postpone their work.

    In business environments where such a culture is dominant, employees exhibit procrastination behaviour, which they know very well from their childhood, and they begin to act as if they are doing the work rather than doing it.

    Postponing or procrastinating is one of the most important issues that threaten not only individual but also corporate performance.

    The job stress that comes with increased competition increases the performance anxiety of both employees and managers.

    The procrastination “illness” that threatens business life causes companies to waste their potential.

    Although procrastination provides relief and pleasure at first, it creates stress, anxiety and restlessness in the long run.

    Every job that is postponed inevitably creates a feeling of guilt and inadequacy.

    Once procrastination begins, it quickly becomes chronic.

    One soon becomes adept at producing “justifiable reasons” for procrastination.

    There can be many reasons behind the procrastination tendency. Researching this subject at the University of Calgary, Dr Piers Steel lists some of these reasons as follows:

    ➡️ If a job does not make sense to us, we find it difficult to find sufficient motivation to start that job.

    ➡️ If we do not like the work to be done, if we do not find it interesting, if we find the work boring, we may prefer to postpone the work.

    ➡️ Many studies reveal that perfectionists resort to procrastination more frequently.

    ➡️ Unrealistic expectations are discouraging. Perfectionism triggers procrastination.

    ➡️ Not knowing where to start, unclear workflow, and not being able to visualize the whole process in one’s mind cause delays.

    Lack of planning justifies procrastination.

    ➡️ If our self-confidence is insufficient and we think that others will judge us negatively, we tend to delay instead of starting work, and we think that we are also delaying possible failure.

    ➡️ If we do not know exactly what is expected of us, if the objectives of the business are not clear, it may seem more “rational” to do nothing instead of starting the business.

    ➡️ The less communication and feedback in an environment, the more people tend to procrastinate.

    ➡️ If the knowledge and skills we have are not sufficient for the tasks we undertake, if we do not have the necessary equipment and knowledge to carry out the tasks in question, we delay the decisions that need to be taken and postpone the work.

    ➡️ Instead of admitting our lack of knowledge and skills in a field, postponing that work -even for a short time- can make us feel better.

    ➡️ Procrastination is also closely related to indecision. If we are a person who has trouble making decisions and having trouble making choices, we can convince ourselves that it is better to procrastinate.

    ➡️ Difficulty in making a decision can be a personal as well as an institutional problem.

    If a company’s management staff cannot make a decision for one reason or another, procrastination is a very common method in that company.

    Suspending decision making and procrastinating is a much more serious problem than innocent laziness.

    We have to deal with this problem and keep ourselves away from the complacency of procrastination.

    We should all strive to foster a “culture of urgency” rather than “procrastination.”

    We have no resources to replace the time lost by procrastination.

    “To procrastinate is to miss out on life.”

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  • Future Anxiety – How To Forget Past And Look To The Future Without Worry

    Future Anxiety – How To Forget Past And Look To The Future Without Worry

    Let’s get rid of the past first. (Future Anxiety)

    Those who can’t get rid of the past have relapsed and can’t make any progress by wasting their energies. (Future Anxiety)

    We must accept that we cannot change the past whether we want to or not.

    Being passive about the past, accepting and making an effort is much more beneficial.

    We cannot change past events, but we can only change their emotional effects.

    “That was it that day.”, “My potential in the conditions of that day allowed me to do it.”

    We should think like “But today I wouldn’t do it this way”, “I won’t let” or “I will”.

    If we can’t get rid of the past, we have regrets and guilt.

    We have wishes. There are thoughts that we devalue ourselves.

    If we get rid of them, we will look ahead.

    In fact, we can’t see current positive experiences because of past perceptions. While many things are happening that we will feel valuable right now.

    If everything is going well in your life and you cannot enjoy yourself, you know that your mind is stuck in the past.

    Often this indicates depression.

    To focus on the present, we must first get rid of the thoughts of the past.

    We need to accept this and not blame ourselves.

    We talked about the past, now let’s talk about the future.

    If the past creates sadness, thinking about the future creates a state of constant anxiety.

    Thoughts such as “What will happen”, “How will it be”, and “Why, is it going to be bad” take us away from that moment. It also leads to fiction about the future.

    When this happens, anxiety becomes the source of unhappiness and malaise after a while.

    But, trying to predict something about the future is a hypothesis, not real knowledge.

    Underneath this, there is the desire to predict the future and take precautions.

    So why? Because we think What will I do if there is a situation in the future that you do not want or cannot cope with? The idea is “I’d better reduce the risk now and prevent it before it reaches that stage”.

    The person who thinks this way has a state of inability to cope and intolerance.

    So How Do We Beat This?

    * I don’t need to fight the danger that I have created on a future issue right now.

    * I should not sacrifice my day for a danger that may arise one day in the future.

    * I don’t think much about the future, it doesn’t mean that I do something for it.

    * If I live my day well and instantly, I will also solve the problems that arise when necessary.

    * Instead of dealing with knowing the future, I can live today and prepare for the future.

    * Continually worrying about the future and generating thoughts about the future keeps our minds busy.

    This situation disconnects us from the environment we are in and prevents us from living the moment.

    * I need to focus more on the environment and the environment I am in so that my mind remains empty.

    * The thought that something bad will happen in the future is just a way of thinking that I learned from my environment.

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  • Step By Step Personal Branding To Success

    Step By Step Personal Branding To Success

    Learn Personal Branding With Asking Right Questions To Yourself

    Personal Branding Basics

    What is your goal?

    What kind of experience do you want people to have when your name comes up when they communicate about who you are or what you do?

    What do you want to accomplish?

    Examples: landing a job, getting a better position at your current company, attracting better clients if you are self-employed, growing your reputation with your current company, reinventing yourself, and building fame.

    What do you want to be known for?

    Examples: A go-to expert in the media for your area of expertise, a specific role like a lifestyle expert or a high-end real- estate photographer

    Do your research.

    Look at people who have a status position that you desire. 

    What are they doing? 

    Are they writing? 

    Do they have press coverage? 

    What comes up when you google their name or a specific title that you seek? 

    Write down what you see (photos, writings) — anything noteworthy that shows branding work.

    Identify your uniqueness and value.

    Next, identify your uniqueness and value. 

    The distinction can be in the way you think, how you approach work, and your philosophies, style, web presence and career experience.

    What do you have to say?

    What could you teach?

    What can you influence? Or what do you want to influence?

    Personal Branding Planning

    1) Authority

    What is your area of expertise?

    What do you know that others in your industry don’t?

    What kind of content can you create to support this?

    Examples: blogs, articles, PR, podcasts
    (Remember that your value + your values = an authentic voice)

    Write a short bio in the style of an elevator pitch.

    What kind of social posts can you make?

    What content can you create?

    Are you interested in speaking?

    What gems of web wisdom can you share, coupled with your opinions?

    2) Online Identity

    Google yourself! Do you come up? 

    If so, where and how often?

    Do you own your domain name? 

    Is it worthwhile for you to own some versions of your name for personal brand protection?

    Do you use any of these online assets? 

    If so, do they need design improvements? 

    Privacy setting changes? 

    Messaging improvements? 

    Is there consistency in your photos and messaging?

    • Google+ 
    • Facebook 
    • LinkedIn 
    • Twitter
    • YouTube
    • Blog
    • Email signature 
    • Profile Picture

    Do you have strong community connections?

    3) Style

    Look critically at the way you present. Are you “dressing the part”? 

    • Wardrobe
    • Website content 
    • Blog content
    • Website design 
    • Blog design
    • LinkedIn profile
    • Facebook profile
    • Twitter profile
    • Google+ profile
    • Email signature
    • Social media profile picture
    • The way you conduct business

    MEASURE

    Don’t forget to measure quantitative and qualitative points. 

    Quantitative metrics include:

     • Website statistics
     • Blog statistics
     • Goal conversions (email signups, number of contact form submissions on a website)

    Qualitative metrics include:

    • Reactions
    • Influence 
    • Feedback
  • Long or Quality Life – Which One is Your Prefer?

    Long or Quality Life – Which One is Your Prefer?

    Long or Quality Life – The Bloody Period Started With These Losses

    You realize what needs to be experienced when you experience it.

    Of course, you may encounter some problems related to yourself and your environment in childhood and middle age.

    You can only observe that you have entered a difficult process with what you see, perceive and experience in the third act of the theatre.

    Childhood Life Is Like A Fairytale Land

    The little joys of childhood, the feeling of being happy with very little things, the presence of your loved ones around you, and the most beautiful child’s health make the world look much more beautiful to you.

    If you grow up in a sensitive environment, your relationships with events and the world are colourful.

    Your life is like a fairy tale land with a different beauty in every part of it.

    The Third Act Opens with Losses

    Adolescence is the period of meeting with the responsibilities of life and its sorrows gradually.

    There are loves, sometimes ending in despair, that make your neck bow down.

    You may perceive your environment and your family differently.

    Because your child’s eyes have started to change, the child’s faces around you have disappeared.

    Longevity But Healthy

    I experienced these in the death of my grandmother and grandfather.

    The bloody period for me started with these losses.

    Both my grandmother and grandfather had become dependent on someone in the last stages of their illness.

    Their quality of life was declining.

    They were getting support from others even to walk from place to place.

    I was observing how heavy this way of life was for them.

    I could see in their eyes that they thought death was better.

    Their mental health was just right.

    But the bodies were tired, battered by disease.

    The life that both of them could continue in need of others was a process they could not accept.

    Mental Health Is Most Important

    In that respect, wishing for a long life becomes meaningful when health comes with it.

    We know how big storms break out when we see thousands of dramas of patients and often feel their pain, breathing difficulties, and what they experience when they cannot even drink a glass of water.

    It should be well known that every person needs love.

    But the sick ones are much more.

    Long-life that includes quality life.

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  • How To Boost Your Success With Easy Methods

    How To Boost Your Success With Easy Methods

    Boost Your Life Success – The definition of success may vary from person to person in line with life and career values.

    Success in business life; While working in the position he/she wants in line with his/her target, for some it may be to get the target wage.

    In this sense, there can be many successful people.

    In business life, the definition of success is used for those who do their job well, properly and ethically.

    What I have observed both in my own business environment and among my clients, those who love their job and do not only aim for financial gain achieve success.

    By the way, do not think that you will always stay on top, this is not certain in life. You have to insure yourself.

    “WHAT YOU DO, DO WITH LOVE”

    Doing your job with passion allows you to enjoy it.

    You should be the party that creates the solution, not the party that creates the problem.

    Even if you don’t like your job very much, it’s up to you to find reasons to love it.

    Playing Polyana can sometimes make your work life more bearable.

    You should try to be positive and make positive statements.

    KNOW YOURSELF; SET YOUR GOAL FOR SUCCESS, SHARE YOUR COURSE

    In order to set a goal, you must first know yourself, your strength and your soft side.

    You have to determine what you can do, your wishes, your expectations from life, your obstacles and your values.

    You should set a realistic goal based on the details you have determined.

    For example, in a larger company, you may have a goal of being a middle manager in x-y-z details in 5 years.

    I HAVE THE POWER NOW!!! FOCUS ON YOUR STRENGTHS

    While discovering yourself, the most important thing is to determine your internal resources in order to achieve your goal, which is your goal, and to determine what you will do to improve the missing ones as an intermediate goal.

    After all, we all have different characteristics.

    The important thing is that we know what is necessary for our job and focus on it.

    Taking part in projects-tasks where you will use your strengths accelerates reaching your goal.

    IDENTIFY YOUR OBSTACLES AND REMOVE….

    “I don’t think about how to be successful at a job. I think about what would hinder it. Once I remove the obstacles, the work will go by itself.”
    Mustafa Kemal Atatürk

    One way to achieve success is to remove obstacles.

    As long as you know what the obstacle is.

    For example, your perfectionist personality may be preventing you from taking quick action.

    LOOKING FOR THE LAST TIME

    Don’t wait to act, it’s the doer, not the thinker, who wins.

    Take action.

    We can’t buy time, can we?

    Not as limitless as the imagination.
    Plan your time well.
    Time = Cash
    Plan your day, week and month.

    TRUST YOUR HUNCHES

    Intuitions supported by experience are valuable and guide.

    You may hear voices about the decisions you will make, the projects you will do about the business or your customers.

  • Effective Communication Skills for Everybody Needs to Know

    Effective Communication Skills for Everybody Needs to Know

    Effective Communication – Forget Your Knowledge About Communication

    Effective Communication – Here, I’m going to share steps and intellectual preparations that can be followed individually for effective communication in your business and private environment;

    Before going to To-Do List, We should know the meaning of Effective Communication.

    It covers the skills of influencing and persuading, storytelling, problem-solving and decision making, negotiation, conflict management, networking, communication, coaching and giving feedback.

    Steps and intellectual preparations that can be followed individually;

    • Ask yourself these questions;

    ✓ Considering my successful and unsuccessful negotiations, what did I do differently?

    ✓ Am I biased in negotiations? Can I look at it from both perspectives? Am I just taking a step back?

    Keep regular notes with a “keep doing/do more” analysis of opportunities to influence, your problems, your initiatives, your results.

    After listening to the other person, get in the habit of briefly summarizing what was said to confirm whether you understood correctly.

    Make an appointment with someone you have difficulty communicating with, arrange a meeting, talk about the sources of your problems and how you can resolve them.

    • Fulfil your promises on time. In cases where you realize that you cannot meet the time commitments, call the people you promised to explain the reasons and set a new date together.
    • Organize periodic meetings with your collaborators to ensure a regular flow of information.
    • Offer more than one alternative while convincing the other person.
    • When persuading a group, consider the dynamics of the group and the differences of group members.
    • Demonstrate concretely the advantages and disadvantages of each alternative.
    • Prepare tables comparing alternatives.
    • Develop alternative approaches by coming together with relevant people in other units so that customer needs can be met in the long term.
    • Get detailed information about the person and institution to be negotiated before the negotiation.
    • Review the concessions you can make before negotiating to ensure that both parties win in the negotiation process.
    • Research and apply different techniques used in problem-solving and decision making.
    • Develop solution alternatives by brainstorming by forming a team for one of the important problems you encounter. Apply the best solution by performing a benefit-harm analysis for each alternative.
    • Observe a colleague or manager you find success in problem-solving and decision making. Suggest to your manager to work with him on a temporary basis if necessary.
    • In order to identify the obstacles you may encounter in your studies, review your past studies and the problems you have experienced during these studies, and gather information about possible problems you may encounter in the work you will carry out by meeting with the relevant people.

    Develop and quickly implement prevention plans to prevent these problems from occurring.

    • Before making a decision, get together with people who will be affected or contribute to the decisions and shape your decisions in line with the opinions you receive from them.
    • Give timely feedback on problems you have difficulty solving.
    • Ask for feedback on a decision you made or the method you used to solve a problem.
    • Talk to your manager and teammates about a problem that you can’t make the right decision, timing or solving correctly, and agree on what should be done.
    • In the distribution of responsibility and work within the team, remember the criteria of situational leadership and take into account the experience and competence levels of your employees.
    • Assign your employee to a subject that you will determine. Let him take the initiative and make decisions in possible situations.
    • Following the issue under the responsibility of the employee, after any mistake, ask questions about the criteria that caused the error and make further notifications so that the error is not repeated.
    • Ask coaching questions and give feedback on situations/events to support development with a coaching-style managerial mindset.
    • Take time for yourself to work on coaching questions.
  • Why Some People Are Happier Than Other People

    Why Some People Are Happier Than Other People

    Happiness Does Not Equal Pleasure – People Are Happier

    People Are Happier – Like intelligence, weight, and wealth, the level of happiness also varies from person to person.

    Yes, some people are happier, some are unhappy. There could be many reasons for this.

    Mostly when we ask happy people why they are happy, they cannot give an obvious answer.

    They say, “I don’t know, I just am”.

    We can describe such people as “happy for no reason”.

    But thousands of studies on large groups enlighten us why some people are happier than others.

    But first, it would be appropriate to define the concept of happiness. In Wilhelm Schmid’s words, “happiness is not a state of uninterrupted pleasantness, constant joy, good fun and lots of fun”.

    So happiness does not equal pleasure.

    Happiness is a character state and refers to being satisfied with life, experiencing positive emotions more often, and experiencing negative emotions less often.

    Happiness, as Tal-Ben Sahahar defines it, is “living life meaningfully by enjoying it.”

    Once we’ve clarified what happiness is, we can look at why some people are happier.

    Happiness and Genetics

    Ask someone who looks physically healthy and fit, “Why are you in shape? How do you maintain your weight?” ask a happy person, “Why are you happy?

    Asking what do you do to be happy is very similar.
    The fit person may say, I don’t know, I’ve been like this for as long as I can remember, I do nothing special, I guess my metabolism works fast.

    He really isn’t doing anything special, and he may even have some harmful habits and things they’re doing wrong.

    Nevertheless, these people are in shape.

    They look very fit and strong. Genetic inheritance can explain the condition of these people.

    In other words, genetically inborn, some people’s metabolisms may work faster, they may be more physically fit and they may feel stronger in terms of physical health.

    However, this does not mean that they will never feel physically inadequate.

    We Are Not Captives of Genetics

    The same is true for happiness. Some people are inherently advantageous and feel happy even when they’re not doing anything special.

    This situation can be explained by genetic factors, just as in physical well-being.

    Such people’s bodies may be more balanced and produce higher levels of happy hormones or chemicals. But you may be thinking that this is unfair.

    Yes, some people may be more disadvantaged from birth, but we are not entirely a prisoner of genetics.

    Alright then Lets find the answer ;

    Why are some people happier?

    • Happy people have higher levels of self-esteem (self-worth, self-esteem). They are content with themselves. They enjoy being who they are.
    • Happy people have high levels of self-compassion. In other words, they are compassionate and understanding to themselves as well as to others. They do not criticize themselves ruthlessly and disproportionately.
    • Happy people have higher self-confidence. They are self-confident in many ways.
    • Happy people also have higher levels of hope and optimism. Their prospects for the future are more positive. They show less pessimism.
    • Happy people are more extroverted. They like to socialize. They experience less loneliness.
    • Happy people have a higher perceived level of social support. There are enough people around them who care about them.

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  • This Article is Written Completely By A.I.

    This Article is Written Completely By A.I.

    AI assistant helps you and guides you to need steps to create an Articles automatically – Written Completely By A.I.

    Written Completely By A.I. – I’m personally interested in AI, ML, VR, and follow improvements very close.

    Today I’ve read an article about AI Writer and while googling I’ve found a website that name is “Simplified. co”.

    This website helps you to create content within your inputs.

    Steps are very easy and here below you can see a screenshot from the website.

    There is an AI assistant and it helps you and guides you to need steps to create AI Articles automatically.

    Screenshot by Author

    I wanted to experience and see results for AI content.

    Here, I’m going to share an article created by AI.

    By the way, I’ve not changed any words and sentences so can be some grammar mistakes.

    Included Topic of the article, All sentences were created by AI.

    Please share your feelings as comments after reading that.

    Best Tools For Writers: How To Improve Your Writing Skills

    Everyone knows that practice makes perfect. The same is true for writing. The more you write, the better you will become at it. But practising your writing can be difficult if you don’t have the right tools. Here are a few of the best tools for writers and how to use them to improve your writing skills.

    Everyone has to write at some point in their lives — for school, for work, or just for fun. But not everyone is a great writer. If you’re looking to improve your writing skills, there are plenty of tools and resources available to help you. From online courses to helpful apps, these are the best tools for writers.

    1. Introduction

    2. The Different Types of Tools Writers Use

    3. General Writing Tools

    4. Research and Reference Tools

    5. Writing for the Web

    6. Collaborative Writing Tools

    7. To Wrap Things Up

    There are a lot of tools out there for writers. Here are a few of the best:

    Google Docs: This is a great all-around tool that lets you write, collaborate, and track changes.

    Scrivener: This software is designed specifically for writers, and helps you organize your thoughts and structure your writing.

    Grammarly: This tool helps you proofread your work and catch mistakes.

    Hemingway: This tool helps you make your writing more concise and readable.

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  • Personal Growth – Checklist and Stages For Starting

    Personal Growth – Checklist and Stages For Starting

    Self-Improvement Doesn’t Work, If You Don’t Follow Those Recommendations – Personal Growth

    Personal Growth – The measure of everything is people.

    All people want to know. They want to be able to exist.

    The goal is not to live! It is a life of its own.

    What makes man virtuous is wisdom, temperance, and courage.

    Wisdom means a solid understanding of the causes of everything that happens, and a deep perspective and reflection on the meaning of life.

    People should come to themselves rather than know themselves.

    Every person is unique. They are special. They are single. Therefore, there is no universal way.

    Where the road will take them on this journey is entirely up to the individual. It starts with inner change.

    Mental change, bodily change. It continues as environmental change.

    Before forgetting, know that you are only human!

    1. KNOW YOURSELF FIRST

    People analyze themselves.

    They begin to think about their strengths and weaknesses.

    Conduct your thoughts on moral and ethical understanding.

    Be on the side of justice, equality, and virtue, which is the spiritual maturity of a man.

    Knowing yourself allows you to understand yourself better, learn more about your needs, and decide if you want to achieve more.

    Developing your knowledge and skills is the beginning of where to start.

    2. COMPARISON

    When you understand yourself, you start comparing yourself to others.

    You want to know those who are better than you.

    Do not cross the fine line when comparing. Jealousy and envy are two different things!

    Jealousy is activated when success is seen in someone else.

    As children, we all want to be heroes of our dreams. We care.

    If you want to learn the secret of the person you model, you should make a comparison.

    You can synthesize new skills from other people or from the universe.

    First, compare yourself to yourself.

    Identify weak spots. study. Become a better person.

    3. CHANGE

    To run in a marathon, you have to exercise.

    If you want to do boxing, you need to train your muscles.

    Even the thought that we must change our lives for the better initiates change.

    It doesn’t matter why you want to change.

    Whatever your inspiration, it’s always good to change for the better.

    4. ACCEPTANCE

    You have reviewed your life. You identified the weaknesses. You made a comparison.

    You have decided to change. It’s time to accept.

    Accept what is before you blame yourself for why you are the way it is.

    Make peace with yourself, forgive and move on to a new phase. Don’t blame, just accept.

    5. PLANNING; TARGET; PURPOSE

    Set short and long term goals.

    Make a plan, set a goal. Get a roadmap. Keep target forms.

    Planning is a crucial analysis and allows you to see your progress.

    6. REACHING YOUR POTENTIAL

    You will make concessions when you go down this road.

    Your comfort will be disturbed.

    You will experience problems of failure, inadequacy, worthlessness, and self-confidence.

    You will experience anxiety and fear. You will face the pressure of Time, Family, Environment. You will learn to be patient.

    In short, you will push all your limits. Why is that? For a better YOU. For the goal you set.

    Remember the difference You wanted everything else doesn’t want you to want it.

    It’s time to fight.

    7. PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT AND GROWTH

    If you meet all the above criteria,

    If you continue to develop goals, you will have chosen the most ideal life for yourself.

    You will be happy and peaceful,
    You will be strong and fair,
    You will be at peace and full of gratitude,
    You become Loving and Beloved

    In short, you are…..

  • Boost Your Brain Power with Those Easy Techniques

    Boost Your Brain Power with Those Easy Techniques

    Boost Your Brain Power, To-Do List

    FOCUS – Boost Your Brain Power

    1. Mute your phone.

    2. Use background tabs and browsers.

    3. Mute your mailbox with “Inbox Pause”.

    4. Clean your desk.

    5. Make distracting scribbles on a blank sheet of paper.

    6. Save articles and videos to Pocket.

    7. Take regular breaks.

    8. Work in different places. Cafes, parks etc.

    9. Sit by the window.

    10. Smell soothing scents. Like lavender and lemon scents.

    11. Bring the thermostat to room temperature and fix it.

    12. Go for a walk.

    13. Get lots of good sleep, exercise, and eat healthy.

    14. Buy plants.

    15. Listen to music.

    16. Meditate.

    17. Check out nature photos and cute animal photos.

    SAVE TIME

    18. Leave or start meetings 15 minutes early.

    19. Authorize.

    20. Track where time is spent.

    21. Simplify your mailbox with Unroll.me.

    22. Leave Facebook.

    23. Automate boring tasks.

    24. Combine similar jobs.

    25. Use your phone’s dictation feature.

    26. Cut out bad habits with the “Stop List”.

    27. Move away from being versatile.

    PRIORITIZE

    28. Decompose daily short tasks into “To Do/Do/I Want To”.

    29. Write 3 “very important” tasks in Post-It.

    30. Start doing it, starting with the most important.

    31. Do not check your mailbox without working for 2 hours.

    32. Will this job help me achieve my goal? NO = Cut it out!

    33. Can only I do this? Does it matter?” Second NO = Cut!

    34. Prepare tomorrow’s to-do list tonight.

    35. Use Stephen Covey’s priority matrix.

    36. Do the creative work first.

    37. Will this get me closer to my goal?

    Is it important to my boss?

    Does it make money?

    Does it make my life easier?

    Does it have to be done today?

    Sort your answers by yes/no numbers.

    BE MOTIVED

    38. Turn Big Tasks into small puzzles.

    39. Study to be able to take a five-minute break.

    40. Get rid of bad tasks as soon as possible.

    41. Start using StickK.com for your personal deals.

    42. If it’s a job that will take less than 2 minutes, do it now.

    43. Find your biological prime time.

    44. Celebrate small wins!

    45. Do not break the chain.

    46. ​​Buy yourself small gifts and reward yourself.

    47. Pose strong and expressive.

    48. Keep a to-do list.

    49. Eat chocolate.

    50. Smile and be happy.

  • “NO” Most Difficult Word To Say But “WHY”

    “NO” Most Difficult Word To Say But “WHY”

    Saying “No” Requires Strong Will – Most Difficult Word

    Most Difficult Word – Why people can’t say no?
    Why do they accept certain things even if they don’t want to?

    The word “NO” is actually a very easy word to say. But for some reason, we know too many people around us who can’t say “NO”.

    Now let’s come to our main topic and examine why we can’t say no.

    For example, why didn’t our family say “NO” to us? For good or not to hurt us?

    Are they showing kindness or torturing themselves?

    People become even more unhappy by being forced to do things they don’t want to do, rather than not being able to do the things they want to do.

    Maybe you can’t do what you want to do, the reason is quite simple, Maybe it is impossible.

    There could be many reasons for this impossibility.

    • Economic reasons
    • We don’t have time
    • Or It could be anything.

    This is acceptable because it is common in life.

    But if we do something we don’t want to do, there is no remedy.

    Yes, It has happened and we cannot go back and change it.

    I think it is also a subjective concept and it is not mentioned in regret.

    Many people often regret things they didn’t do.

    When someone asks you for something, you don’t have to do it.

    Saying “No” Requires Strong Will

    When people around us make demands, we may be undecided whether to meet that demand or not.

    If we state that the demand cannot be met, we worry that the relationship will be damaged.

    We may think that the people surrounding us will only continue to communicate with us when we meet their demands and that the relationship may end if we do not meet the demand and say no.

    The concern of weakening the bond with people is a major concern, especially for people with a dependent structure.

    They have to make concessions by always saying yes in order to maintain the bond.

    Afterwards, they are very sad because of the victimization they experienced, but they cannot get rid of this cycle.

    Not being able to say “NO” is not a disease, it is a structural problem

    Not being able to say “no” is not a disease; It is a structural problem. If it was a disease, it could be eradicated with drug treatment.

    It is a problem that occurs in addicted people. It can also be among the symptoms of depression.

    People with depression have a loss of initiative. They can be easily manipulated.

    Cell phone scammers can easily ensnare addicted and depressed people.

    Fears can be aroused by some threats, and he can be made to fit into the dwellings as if he were hypnotized.

    5 suggestions for those who can’t say “NO”

    1. You should listen to what your impulses (your soul) are saying.

    2. You should listen to what your logic and conscience say.

    3. You have to listen to what the outside world is saying.

    4. After hearing all these voices, you should make the right decision and implement it with your will.

    5. If your decision is no and you feel great distress, you should seek help from a psychiatrist. “

  • How To Win Discussion Against Manipulators

    How To Win Discussion Against Manipulators

    Psychological manipulation is when one person uses another for their own benefit – Discussion Against Manipulators

    Discussion Against Manipulators – It is very common for people who are more sensitive and emotional to be subject to manipulation.

    Here below, I’m going to explain what needs to be done to detect manipulation and put a stop to it.

    • Know Your Basic Human Rights

    The most important step in dealing with someone who exposes you to psychological manipulation is to recognize the manipulation and to know your human rights.

    You always have the right to defend yourself, as long as you do not harm others. So what are these basic human rights we are talking about?

    Treating with respect,

    Sharing your wishes, thoughts and feelings,

    Setting your own priorities,

    Being able to say “no” without feeling guilty,

    Getting what you pay for

    Having different opinions from others

    Protecting yourself from physical, psychological and emotional dangers and Creating your own healthy, happy world

    Remember that you have rights. These rights define your boundaries.

    Unfortunately, every day we encounter many people around us who do not respect these rights.

    Especially, psychological manipulators do their best to deny you these rights and to take advantage of you in their own interests.

    At this point, what you should never forget is that you, and only you, are in control of your life.

    • Keep Your Distance

    One of the surest ways to detect a manipulator is to monitor its behaviour in different environments.

    If a person takes on different characters in different environments, this indicates that he is prone to manipulation.

    Manipulators can be overly polite to one person and the opposite to another.

    If you notice that a person around you takes on different characters in different environments, be careful not to talk to that person unless it is absolutely necessary, and always keep your distance.

    It is true that people who chronically manipulate those around them have very deep and complex problems, and it is not your job to try to change or save this person.

    • Stop Making Things Personal and Blaming Yourself

    Since the only purpose of manipulators is to use you for their own benefit, you can often blame yourself for not being able to satisfy that person and feel incomplete.

    In these cases, you should remember that the issue is not your fault.

    The aim of the other person is to try to monopolize their rights and freedoms by making them feel guilty.

    Review your relationships with manipulators and ask yourself these questions:

    Does he treat me with genuine respect?

    Is this person’s expectations of me reasonable and normal?

    Am I the only one giving in this relationship, or is it mutual?

    Do I feel good while maintaining this relationship?

    In line with the answers to these questions, you can understand whether the issue in your relationship is caused by you or the person in front of you.

    • Shift The Focus To The Other Person By Asking Detailed Questions

    Manipulators may have some requests from you, even these will usually be in the form of “command”.

    To meet these “requests” you frequently have to go to great lengths to serve their purposes.

    When they make a request that you think does not make sense to you, you can ask questions that examine this request and turn the focus to the manipulator.

    Here are some examples of questions you might ask:

    Does this really make sense to you?

    Do you think this thing you want from me is fair?

    Do I have a say in this matter?

    Is this an order or a request?

    What will I gain from this?

    Do you really expect me to do this?

    When you ask these questions, you hold up a mirror to the person in front of you and show him the irrationality of his requests.

    If the manipulator has even a little self-awareness, he will give up on his wishes.

    On the other hand, pathological manipulators (e.g. narcissists) will completely ignore these questions and continue to pressurize you to comply with their wishes.

    If you encounter this situation, you can follow the next steps.

    • Use the Time in Your Favour

    Besides unreasonable and compulsive requests, manipulators often expect a quick response from you.

    This is to increase the pressure and control over you (salespeople typically use this tactic as well).

    In such cases, instead of immediately responding to the manipulator’s request, try to get away from its influence by using time in your favour.

    You can dominate the situation by saying “I will think about it”.

    Use the time you requested to make a detailed assessment of the situation.

    As you review the advantages and disadvantages, decide if it would be better for you if you simply said “no” and passed.

    In fact, most bullies tend to behave like this because they are violent themselves.

    Although this is not an excuse, maybe when you meet a person of this character, you can try to help them by being careful not to compromise too much, or you can suggest someone help them.

  • Smart Thinking – Here is To-Do List For You

    Smart Thinking – Here is To-Do List For You

    In order to think more clearly… How many times have you felt that your brain stopped working? – Smart Thinking

    Smart Thinking – According to James Thorton, this is not because memory declines with age. Just a warning born of the need to improve our cognitive intelligence…

    So here are 15 tips for taking a break and thinking better and improving your creative mind…

    Below, I share the suggestions that make your intelligence shine.

    1. Timing It Right

    Most adults think more clearly in the morning and most late people think more clearly in the afternoon.

    Identify your best thinking time and reserve that time for your toughest brain work.

    Each person has a different time period for better thinking.

    2. Get A Good Education But Don’t Overdo It

    Psychologist Dean Keith Simonton says that going to school has a positive effect on creativity.

    Increasingly, then, the focus on graduation lowers creativity. “If you write ineffective, you don’t become a great writer as a psychiatrist.”

    3. Listen To Confucius

    One trick is that “help to memory “ is used by memory researchers themselves:

    To do this, Always try to take notes.

    “One Chinese sentence says that “the weakest ink is more permanent than the strongest memory”.

    4. Consume Small Amounts Of Caffeine

    Studies show that the amount of caffeine in a cup of coffee will help you concentrate.

    But if you are prone to anxiety; this may not work…

    5. Focus Your New Memories On Existing Ones

    “Think of your existing memory as a gallows adapting to new information,” says University of Michigan cognitive researcher Denise Park.

    Do not leave new information outside the allocated area.

    6. Do Practice

    Learning and constant practice of new skills occur to change the internal organization of the brain.

    One study shows that periodic training sessions helped volunteers in their 70s have better cognitive and memory skills than they had when they were 7 years old.

    “The practice really works,” says Len Giambra, an emeritus psychologist at the National Institute on Aging.

    7. Give Your Ideas A Chance

    Most of us are rewarded for our ability to quickly assess the facts and make a quick “go or not go” decision.

    Creativity requires more rush and excitement.

    8. Choose Intellectual Job And A Smart Partner

    Engaging studies say that people who career seek an intellectual exercise have a high cognitive level in their life.

    Marrying someone smart that will ensure your success.

    Our brain favours those we know

    9. Creativity

    It usually summarizes the ability of solutions to adapt from one field to another.

    10. Learn from Leonardo Da Vinci

    In his book, “How to Think Like Leonardo Da Vinci” author Michael Gelb presents some brain-boosting strategies that have worked for the greatest Renaissance man.

    It also includes topics such as learning the forest and drawing with your opposite hand.

    11. Give Your Attention

    Do you ever forget someone’s name just seconds after the meeting? The problem isn’t memory, it’s a concentration problem.

    As we get older, we must remember that we must consciously put information into our memory bank ourselves.

    12. Listen to Mozart

    A brain exposed to Wolfgang’s music develops more complex connections. This allows for faster, integrated access to more information.

    13. Do Body Exercises To Improve Your Intelligence

    Experts believe that aerobic training improves everything from school performance to nerve conduction velocity.

    Exercise has so many benefits that it really makes sense to do it.

    14. Try New Things

    Near the end of his life, Impressionist painter Henri Matisse revived his art by replacing brushes with scissors, which he used to create a series of wonderful paper cutouts.

    Psychologist Dean Keith Simonton, the editor of the Journal of Creative Behaviors, states that such experiences emerge as the successful quality of creativity.

    In a study comparing creative and non-creative people, the main difference was that one was more open to learning new things and the other was not.

    15. End Your Distraction

    If you are bombarded with irrelevant stimuli, it will be very difficult for you to focus.

    If you absolutely have to do something (like completing a report) try renting a hotel room where you can unplug the phone and concentrate.

    Don’t forget to follow your passions!

    Recently, a Dutch psychologist has been trying to find out what separates chess masters from chess grandmasters.

    He tested each group — IQ, memory.

    The test result was, no different between them. The only difference was that the great masters liked chess more.

    They were more passionate and more devoted to him.

    Passion can be the key to creativity.

  • How To Hack Your Reading Speed Easily and Read Faster

    How To Hack Your Reading Speed Easily and Read Faster

    Reading Speed – I read 2x faster than average readers with these techniques

    Reading Speed – More than a million words enter our lives every day. Magazines, newspapers, posters, and the books we want to read if we can find the time…

    Being in a limited time when there is so much to read, makes us either turn away from reading or cause us to be postponed.

    Well, is it possible to read quickly and intelligibly in this time constraint?

    What are speed reading techniques?

    How to increase reading speed?

    Here below I’m going to share easy and quick reading techniques

    • WHAT DOES SPEED READING DO?

    By strengthening and repeating fast reading techniques with exercises, a new reading habit is given to the eyes.

    The new reading habit is largely independent of the voice of the mind. Words are seen in blocks, not one by one, as in the old reading habit.

    The eyes move fluently on the lines, making fewer stop and hop movements.

    Since the data flow to the brain is fast, a more focused reading takes place by being less affected by external factors.

    With the action of reading with a high focus and fast, a more comfortable unity is established between the sentences, so the reader creates the structure of the text that reads more easily and understands it better than before.

    Since comfortable data flow is provided, long readings can be made without getting bored and distracted.

    All these increase the reader’s desire to read and strengthen the reading habit.

    • HOW TO START?

    “If you make reading a part of your daily work, you will have a chance to progress much faster.”

    The first thing you should do is test yourself and evaluate your reading skills.

    This means determining your initial reading speed and how much you remember from what you’ve read.

    • HOW TO DETECT THE READING SPEED?

    Most people read slowly because they have no idea how fast they actually read.

    It is necessary to test yourself with more than one book to know more about your reading ability.

    In this case, the second book should be the reverse of the first book.

    So if your first book is a non-fiction text, your second book should be a book like a novel or a biography.

    The reason for experimenting on more than one book is explained as the fact that people have more in one area than other areas and that it will not give an objective result as a reflection of this situation on reading speed.

    • 3 MINUTES ARE ENOUGH TO MEASURE SPEED

    Your reading speed;

    If it’s under 120 words per minute: You’re below the average reader.

    Between 120–180 words per minute: If you are not under the age of 16, your reading speed is below average.

    If it is between 180–240 words per minute: You are an average reader.

    If it is between 240–350 words per minute: You are an average reader at the academic level.

    Between 350–500 words per minute: You are above the average reader.

    If it’s more than 500 words per minute: You’re a high-level reader.

    • BE AWARE OF WHY YOU’RE READING

    To reinforce your reading purpose, you need to engage in reading designs.

    The stronger your reading intent, the greater your focus on the text.

    Therefore, reading with a high focus also affects the information and details you will get from the text.

    The information you will get from the texts you read with a low focus decreases as much and it also affects your reading desire towards the text.

    This causes you to return frequently while reading the text, and the information you understand remains limited even if you read the text to the end.

    • HOW TO DO THE READING EXERCISE?

    Choose any book that does not contain too many foreign words.

    Open any page of the book you have chosen and take a pen in your hand and hold it so that the pointed end of the pen is under the line. Start reading by following the pen.

    After a minute, double the speed of the pen and drive 2x your normal reading speed to follow the lines.

    But after 5 minutes, you will feel that your brain completes the words you missed and provides the integrity of meaning.

    • WHAT IS THE “ARER” TECHNIQUE?

    If you use the “ARER” technique, you will create a strong reading design.

    “ARER” technique is an abbreviation consisting of the initials of the words Ask, Read, Explain, Repeat, and is a reading design and comprehension technique.

    You should review and watch the book or text you are going to read before you start reading, watching should be for general information about the book.

    What the subject is, the message the author wants to give, and the fictional structure he creates while giving this message should be examined.

    To do this, the preface, the contents, headings, subtitles, italicized places, the first and last sentences of the paragraphs, the last pages and last sentences of the book, the photographs on the book, if any, the subject and chapters of the book give you a lot of information to get a preview of the book. It will help.

    • ASK

    After creating the general setup in your mind, it‘s time to ASK, It is not about creating a question about the book by summarizing the book.

    You can list all the questions that come to your mind as a result of watching. While creating the questions, on the one hand, think about the answers to the questions you have created and try to make predictions.

    To do this; The “WH-” rule will come in handy.

    WHAT? The question gives the subject.
    WHY? Gives purpose to questions.
    HOW? The question determines the method.
    WHERE? Determines the concepts of space and place.
    WHEN? Process concepts
    WHO? The question also determines the relevant and responsible persons.

    Asking questions will increase your focus and desire on the text you will read.

    After the monitoring and questioning process, new connection paths have already formed in your mind, your brain has now determined which parts of your mind will record the future detailed information.

    • READ

    When you start reading the book after watching and asking questions, the book will start to make a lot of sense to you from the first page.

    When you start reading, you will feel that you are reading with more focus, more detail, and better understanding.

    When reading, you should focus on ideas, not words. This will increase your reading speed and comprehension.

    • EXPLAIN

    Explaining is the best learning method. When you start to tell, your brain goes from passive to active and many parts of the brain are actively involved in the learning process.

    Thus, you associate your information with your life and make it a memory. The brain uses sounds, photos, and emotions to make memories.

    Memorized information is saved in permanent memory and is not easily forgotten.

    If you explain the information by converting the information into your own sentences, not the same sentences written in the text, you will learn more effectively, because people learn with their own sentences.

    • REPEAT

    If you do not repeat the information you have learned, you will forget most of it within a week and have difficulty remembering.

    To avoid this, you should do daily, weekly, monthly repetitions.

    You should do the learning process before sleep and repeat it in the first hours after sleep in the morning.

    Because what you keep your brain busy with before sleep, your brain is busy with that information during sleep.

    Learning continues during sleep, and information is analyzed and synthesized, and interpreted.

    What you did hard the day before will be much easier for you the next day. The first hours of the morning are when your mind is most active.

    The repetitions you will do during these hours are very effective.

    • YOU MUST EXPAND YOUR VOCABULARY

    In order to be an effective and fast reader, you need to master grammar.

    Grammar and vocabulary deficiency is seen in people with poor reading backgrounds.

    In order to be able to recognize words easily and quickly, the symbolic equivalent of the words must be created in your mind beforehand.

    This has to do with how often you see words and sentence structures.

    The more you see a word, the easier it is to recognize it in your next reading.

    It is difficult for children who are new to reading or those who read little, to recognize words and sentence structures.

    This greatly reduces the reading speed.

    You can improve your vocabulary by reading books and magazines daily, regularly, but this is a time-consuming process.

  • Feeling Happy – I’ve Found Scientific Formula For This

    Feeling Happy – I’ve Found Scientific Formula For This

    Feeling Happy – Road To Happiness Is Through Small Changes

    Feeling Happy – In recent years, scientists who have frequently focused on happiness, the joy of life and being positive have come up with suggestions that will make life beautiful.
    Here, I’m going to share those suggestions…

    1. BE HELPFUL

    According to research published in Psychological Bulletin; Spending money on other people rather than yourself will make you feel better.
    According to research that reveals that the happiest people are the biggest givers; You can find happiness by donating and giving money to others.

    2. BE THANKFUL

    Professor Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania; proved that people who think about three good things that make them happy every night are happier than others.
    The things that make you happy don’t have to be important either; Even your spouse remembering to buy your favourite dessert is enough to be thankful.

    3. TRY SOMETHING NEW

    People who participate in adventures, have new experiences and change their routines are happier.
    Trying new things also stimulates brain waves.

    4. SET GOALS

    Psychologist Jonathan Freedman claims that people who set themselves short- or long-term goals are happier than those who don’t.
    “Working towards a goal activates positive emotions,” says Richard Davidson of the University of Wisconsin.

    5. BE OBJECTIVE

    The author of the book ‘Ultimate Happiness Prescription’, Dr Deepak Chopra; says that in order to be happy and enlightened, one must be impartial.

    “If you stop defending your own point of view, you’ll save 99 percent of your energy and you’ll be much happier,” Chopra says.

    6. HAVE FAITH

    According to new studies; People with faith are much more satisfied and happier with their lives than those without.

    Assoc. As a result of Bruce Headey’s 25 years of research at the University of Melbourne; It turned out that people of faith avoid career anxiety and are more emotionally stable.

    7. SLEEP AT LEAST SIX HOURS

    A study done in England; revealed that getting at least 6 hours and 15 minutes of uninterrupted sleep a day makes people happy.

    8. MAKE 10 GOOD FRIENDS

    A study by the University of Nottingham; found that adults who said they had at least 10 good friends were happier than those who had five or fewer close friends.

    According to the study; To feel happier, we need to expand our circle of friends.

    9. SMILE FREQUENTLY

    Smiling and pretending to be happy makes you feel better when you’re really sad.
    According to many studies; Even just the act of smiling makes people feel happier.

    10. ROMANCE IS IMPORTANT

    Relationships have a huge impact on happiness.
    According to the research of scientists at Cornell University; people in a relationship; are happier than those who are not.

    11. SIT CLOSE TO WORK

    In the research conducted in England; It is claimed that people who live close to their workplace are happier than others.
    The length of the road travelled each day; directly affects health and fitness.