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  • Philosophical Debates Everyone Should Know – Meaning of Life

    Philosophical Debates Everyone Should Know – Meaning of Life

    Meaning of Life

    Since our existence, we have been asking questions about where we came from, why we are here, and whether there is a divine power that controls us.

    Many of these questions have not yet been satisfactorily resolved. Perhaps they never will.

    But by studying philosophy you can trace ideas and develop your own ideas at the same time. Even if philosophical debates are abstract, the way we approach them helps us to arrive at what we call truth.

    In this article, we take a look at some of the key questions and ideas that philosophers have tried to answer throughout history.

    1- Is the world we live in really real?

    From the moment you enter the field of philosophy, you begin to doubt the existence of objective external reality. A version of this idea was popularized by the movie The Matrix.

    How can you be sure that the reality you experience is real and not a simulation?

    What is the source of your confidence that you are not just a brain in a jar?

    Philosophers don’t need to build science fiction universes to ask these questions. If the external world you perceive is not real, there is not necessarily a real world that is hidden from you.

    Your consciousness and your perceptions may be the only thing that exists. If this sounds absurd, imagine how difficult it would be to prove otherwise. Philosophers have followed different schools of thought on this issue.

    Realists think that there is an objective external reality. There are various types of anti-realism. Idealism claims that reality is a product of our thoughts.

    Phenomenalism says that it is a product of our perceptions and memories of past perceptions.

    Beyond all this, there are debates about which aspects of what we perceive is real and which are not.

    For example, some philosophers claim that the past, present and future are real, but that time is an illusion.

    Others ask, even if the universe as it is now is real, how can we be sure that five minutes ago was also real, for example, that the universe was not recreated with all the contours of the past?

    These questions also intersect with questions of physics. Quantum mechanics, for example, challenges our ideas about how static and measurable the “real” world is.

    2- What is consciousness?

    We all have a common intuition about what it means to be conscious. But this intuition is difficult to define. One debate about this is between dualism and materialism.

    Dualists argue that the conscious mind is in some sense separate from the body. This is actually the intuitive way most people think about their own minds.

    You think of thinking as a separate act, not as “I think with the brain in my head”. Monists argue that the conscious mind is all and only the neural activity in our brain.

    Others still say that the mind is not separate from the body, but that the soul exists as a separate category. Many of these questions become apparent through comparisons with non-human animals and machines.

    We can create a machine that can perceive different colours and move accordingly.

    But can we create a machine that is conscious of this process, just like us?

    This leads us to the question of whether any being outside of us is conscious. The philosopher John Searle put forward the Chinese room argument to draw attention to this question.

    John Searle imagines himself as a person who speaks English but not Chinese in a room with a book containing a series of Chinese symbols. He can sort the symbols as the book describes, but he cannot understand the resulting writing. 

    However, if the same experiment were conducted in English, he would be able to understand what the symbols mean. For an outside observer, there is no difference between using Chinese or English symbols. Because the observer has no way of knowing whether the man in the room understands them or not.

    Searle used this experiment to illustrate the problem of consciousness in artificial intelligence.

    How can we distinguish whether the machine is conscious or simply programmed to mimic consciousness without any inner experience?

    Moreover, we can ask the same question in relation to any entity that claims to be conscious. Since there is currently no chance for a human being to experience what is going on in another person’s mind, we cannot know with certainty who is experiencing the consciousness, and who is merely exposed to an external stimulus and responds to it in a way that mimics consciousness.

    3- What system should we use to make moral decisions?

    One of the biggest questions in philosophy is how to distinguish right from wrong, that is, how to know what is the moral course to follow in any given situation.

    A classic example to explain different moral systems is the “trolley problem”. Using scenarios and thought experiments like this, philosophers try to see whether moral principles work.

    The trolley problem

    A tram is approaching at full speed to the tracks where the villain has tied up five people. If the tram hits them, they will die. On a different track going in another direction, there is one person tied up by the same villain.

    You are standing next to the switch on the railroad tracks. If you pull the lever, you will direct the fast-approaching tram onto one person and that person will die, but with this move, you will save five people. Do you think it is right to pull the lever?

    If you want to test your instincts further, there are other versions of the problem. Suppose the out-of-control tram is again heading towards five people.

    You are on a bridge with a very overweight man. If you push the man off the bridge, it will kill him. But his weight will stop the tram and save the lives of the five people on the tracks.

    Would you push the man in this situation?

    For most people, the instinctive answer to the first question is to pull the lever. But even though the number of lives lost and saved is the same in both cases, the decision to push a man is more difficult.

    For some other people, neither pulling the lever nor pushing the man is acceptable. Because otherwise, the absolute rule against killing must continue to be obeyed, even if more lives are saved.

    Others claim that the important thing is only to save as many people as possible.

    It seems unlikely that we can design a system that gives the right answer to every moral dilemma or that we can all agree on. Nevertheless, decision-making is a valuable process in itself. After all, these are not just abstract questions.

    Even life-and-death questions like the one above involve many different kinds of people who have to decide which life is preferable.

    4- Does free will really exist?

    Philosophy intersects with other disciplines, notably psychology, on the question of whether free people have free will. In its simplest form, free will is the ability to freely decide on actions.

    For example, all of the moral decisions mentioned above are based on the assumption that we can choose between right and wrong options.

    From a neuroscience perspective, it is possible to argue that we do not make this choice freely. From small changes, such as feeling more open to people’s suggestions after drinking a cup of coffee, to larger changes, such as the impact of depression on our decision-making, we are all subject to brain chemistry that affects the way we make choices.

    From our sensitivity to caffeine to our susceptibility to mental illness, these changes are influenced by our environment, our upbringing and, above all, our genes. We may think we make our decisions freely, but this is probably not the case.

    On the other hand, one of the tasks of philosophy is to fill in the gaps between scientific facts. One philosophical theory, determinism, is the idea that the future is determined by the laws of nature and the past.

    According to determinism, even if you rewind time and move it a hundred times, everything will happen exactly the same way as long as the laws of nature remain the same. Some philosophers claim that determinism is incompatible with free will.

    Others argue that our actions are completely determined, but that we are still free in the choices we make in carrying out our actions. This is an argument often made by religious believers.

    God knows our actions before we take them, but this does not invalidate the choices we make. Others argue that determinism is wrong because it ignores the factor of chance. However, despite chance, we lack free will. These philosophical debates continue to evolve in the light of scientific developments. 

  • Surprising Similarities Between Human Brain And Universe

    Surprising Similarities Between Human Brain And Universe

    If you want to understand yourself, you will understand the whole universe – Human Brain And Universe

    Merlin says:

    “Remember, Arthur, if you want to understand the whole universe, you will understand nothing. But if you want to understand yourself, you will understand the whole universe.”

    Could there really be similarities between the human brain and the universe? The human brain weighs about 1.5 kilograms and contains about 1oo billion neurons. 

    Coincidentally, this is roughly the same number as the number of stars in our galaxy, the number of galaxies in the universe and the number of people who have ever lived. 

    Edward Wilson: 

    “The human brain is the most complex object known in the universe. And it is he who knows it.”

    An astrophysicist from the University of Bologna and a neurosurgeon from the University of Verona compared the network of neuronal cells in the human brain with the network of cosmic galaxies. 

    Actually, this is not such a strange comparison. You may have seen the image below, which is occasionally shared, showing a human neuron and a simulated galaxy cluster side by side. Indeed, the two look surprisingly similar. 

    But there is much more to the human brain — and to the Universe — than meets the eye. That’s why the first results of the comparison were truly astonishing. Not only were the brain and the cosmic web identical in complexity, but also in structure. 

    Similarities between the human brain and the Universe

    The human brain functions thanks to its vast network of neurons, which is believed to contain around 69 billion neurons. On the other hand, the observable universe consists of a cosmic network of at least 100 billion galaxies. 

    In both systems, only 30% of their mass consists of galaxies and neurons. In both systems, galaxies and neurons organize themselves into long filaments or nodes between filaments. 

    Finally, in both systems, 70% of the distribution of mass or energy is made up of components that play a seemingly passive role. To be precise, the brain is made up of 77 per cent water. And 72 per cent of the universe is dark energy. 

    Based on the common features of the two systems, the researchers compared a simulation of the network of galaxies with parts of the cerebral cortex and cerebellum. Their aim was to observe how matter fluctuations are distributed at such diverse scales. 

    The researchers used a technique called power spectrum analysis to study the large-scale distribution of galaxies. The power spectrum of an image measures the strength of structural fluctuations at a given spatial scale. 

    A striking message emerges from the power spectrum plot in Figure 2. The relative distribution of the fluctuations in the two networks is quite similar, with a difference of a few measurements. 

    The distribution of fluctuations in the cerebellum on scales of 0.1–1 mm is reminiscent of the distribution of galaxies over hundreds of billions of light-years. 

    The structure of the cortex at the smallest scales available for microscopic observation (about 10 µm) is quite close to that of galaxies on the scale of several hundreds of thousands of light-years. 

    Unexpected agreement in structural parameters

    Power spectrum comparison does not tell us whether the two systems being compared are equally complex. A practical way to estimate the complexity of a network is to measure the difficulty of predicting its behaviour.

    This can be done by calculating the amount of information required to create the smallest possible computer program that can make such an estimate.

    A recent study shows that the memory of the human brain is around 2.5 petabytes. Another study suggests that the memory capacity needed to store the complexity of the Universe is about 4.3 petabytes.

    This similarity in memory capacity means that all the information stored in a human brain could also be encoded into the distribution of galaxies in our Universe.

    The team also looked at other morphological features, such as the number of filaments attached to each node. The cosmic network, based on a sample of 3,800 to 4,700 nodes, had an average of 3.8 to 4.1 connections per node.

    The human cortex, with 1,800 to 2,000 nodes, had an average of 4.6 to 5.4 connections per node.

    Conclusion

    The results of this pilot study are very encouraging. Therefore, the researchers believe that new and efficient analysis techniques in both fields will allow a better understanding of the dynamics underlying the temporal evolution of these two systems.

  • 10 Simple Ways To Be A Happy Person

    10 Simple Ways To Be A Happy Person

    Happy Person – Although we have convinced ourselves that this is difficult, it is actually much simpler than we think

    Happy Person – We all want to be happy. Although we have convinced ourselves that this is difficult, it is actually much simpler than we think.

    Of course, everyone has different ways and methods to be happy. Here is what to do to become a happier person;

    1. Spend Time with People Who Make You Smile

    We all have people around us who we define as “toxic”; some from family, some from work, and some from our circle of friends. We have all read or heard somewhere before that positivity is contagious. It is important to remember that negativity is as contagious as positivity. 

    You need to keep your distance from people who bring you down, who are pessimistic, negative and constantly criticize you. You may not be able to get them all out of your life at once — which is our suggestion — but you can at least try to distance yourself from them. 

    Surrounding yourself with happy and positive people will make you feel better. Surrounding yourself with people who make you laugh can be your first method.

    2. Respect Your Values

    Yes, beliefs can be confusing, but they can be a great support to hold on to life. Your ideas, your lifestyle, and your beliefs are completely personal to you. And protecting these private spaces can help you feel happier. 

    These values will increase your self-worth and the value you give to others. Search; choose what is right for you or what makes sense to you. For some, it is prayer, for others it is meditation. The choice is entirely yours.

    3. Accept the Good

    Negativity and pessimism have taken over every aspect of our lives. We don’t even see the beautiful things, let alone appreciate them. However, there are many beautiful things in our lives. Instead of labelling them as “worthless” and pushing them away, you can try to place them at important points in your life. 

    Once you realize the small beauties, you will see that happiness is not that difficult. When good things happen, even if they are very small, let them in and embrace them.

    4. Let Your Dreams Go Beyond You

    Yes, you may not suddenly become a musician, artist or performer. But that shouldn’t stop you from dreaming. Go inside yourself, let go of your fears and imagine what you really want, where you really want to be — without any obstacles. 

    Many people avoid this because they don’t want to be disappointed. But imagining is the starting point. It is your first step.

    5. Try to do what you love

    You may not be able to dive every day, but it shouldn’t be that hard to do it every two weeks. You need to make the effort and take the time to do the things you love. 

    Sitting at a desk and working all day makes us feel bad, both mentally and physically. How can you be happy when you feel so bad? You need to make time for yourself. Try everything you want to try and you will see how much better you feel.

    6. Find a Purpose

    Everyone wants to feel accepted and part of this world. Many studies show that people who are helpful are happier. This is because seeing that goodness has touched another living being besides themselves makes them feel like they are part of the whole.

    7. Listen to your heart

    We like to exchange ideas. There is no problem with that. The problem starts there: we take those ideas and incorporate them into our lives. But who knows better than you what will make you happy or unhappy? 

    Not your friends, not your family, not people whose opinions you respect, just you. Yes, happiness can be complicated. But only you can unravel that complexity.

    8. Take Responsibility for Yourself

    It is easiest to blame life and blame others — and we often choose to do so. But these accusations will not take you one step forward or backwards from where you are. Yes, many things have happened at times against your will, and perhaps they are still happening. 

    The only thing you need to do now is to take everything into your own hands. Everyone is responsible for themselves and only themselves. You can be sure that the moment you take responsibility, you will feel stronger.

    9. Be Open to Change

    We have heard, seen and read a lot about change. Let us remind you once again of the ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus’ words “The only thing that does not change is change”. 

    The change will be in every aspect of your life. Therefore, you need to prepare yourself for all situations, good and bad.

    10. Focus on Simple Things

    Watching the stars or the clouds for hours, laughing at a silly joke made by a friend, listening to music that you enjoy immensely… these should be your little joys.

    Conclusion

    Be clear about what you value and what your goals are. If you are honest and open with yourself about what you want out of life, it will be easier to achieve what you want. 

    According to renowned author Steve Chandler;

    “Most people are surprised to learn that the reason they get so little of what they want out of life is simply that their basic goals are too small and too vague. Goals that are too small and too vague have no power. If it doesn’t provoke your imagination, if it doesn’t stimulate your imagination, it’s impossible to achieve your basic goal. The way to really increase motivation is to set a big, specific and powerful goal.”

  • Why If Sun Were To Disappear, We Would Realize It After 8 minutes?

    Why If Sun Were To Disappear, We Would Realize It After 8 minutes?

    We see the Moon 1.25 seconds ago and Alpha Centauri, the nearest star system, 4.25 years ago

    Wouldn’t it be interesting to watch the past? For example, watching an event that happened 10,000 years ago live as if it were happening right now. 

    In fact, we experience this every day. 

    How? The farther we look out in the universe, the farther back in time we go.

     We see the Moon 1.25 seconds ago, the Sun 8.5 minutes ago, and Alpha Centauri, the nearest star system, 4.25 years ago.

    It is literally impossible to know what the universe looks like right now.

    It is reasonable to believe that the Moon, the Sun and the nearest star system are still in place. But this is not true for galaxies whose images only reach us from billions of years ago. The time it takes for light from objects in space to reach Earth means that when we look at planets, stars and galaxies, we are actually looking back in time.

    Let’s take a simple example.

    The speed of light in space is approximately 300 million meters per second. Let’s say we are standing 600 million meters away from a light source. We have a friend standing next to the light source.

    When our friend presses a button, light is emitted. This light takes about 2 seconds to reach us. In this case, we will know that our friend turned on the light after 2 seconds.

    In fact, when we turn on a flashlight, it is not simultaneous for photons to be generated, for them to reach our eyes and for us to see them. But we don’t feel this difference because it is in nanoseconds.

    Now apply this to events in galaxies 10,000 light years away from us. For example, we will not see a starburst at this distance until 10,000 years after it happens.

    Since we don’t watch the stars in deep space every day, and we don’t have a friend 600 million meters away from us to turn on and off the lights, how do we experience this phenomenon?

    If our sun were to disappear, we would only realize it after 8 minutes.

    The Sun, the 4.5 billion-year-old star of the system to which the Earth belongs, is about 150 million kilometres away from us.

    The speed of light is about 300 thousand kilometres per second. In this case, a ray of light leaving the surface of the Sun takes about 8 minutes and 20 seconds to reach us.

    Considering that the Earth moves in an elliptical orbit around the Sun, this time varies between 490 seconds and 507 seconds. But 500 seconds is the average.

    If 8 minutes is not interesting enough for you, think of it this way: A photon actually has a life before it reaches the surface of the Sun, floats through space and reaches our eyes.

    You know that the Sun produces photons in its core through fusion reactions. A photon produced by gamma radiation manages to reach the surface after a very long time after travelling through the core and the radioactive region. 

    So a photon from the Sun that reaches our eyes could actually be tens of thousands of years old!

    The distance between us and the Sun and the limited speed of light has other consequences, of course. 

    For example, imagine that for some reason, our rare source of life suddenly disappears. 

    At that moment, depending on the distance between the Sun and our Earth, we will continue to live on our planet for about 8 minutes as if nothing had happened. A wonderful 8 minutes in which we are oblivious to what will happen to us afterwards.

    How does looking at distant galaxies allow us to look back in time?

    When telescopes look at light from distant galaxies, they are not literally looking back in time. The past no longer exists, so no one can look at it directly. Instead, telescopes look at the present-time pattern of a beam of light.

    Because the beam of light has been travelling through mostly empty space for millions of years, it is largely undistorted. 

    Therefore, the present-time pattern of this beam of light is the same pattern it had millions of years ago when it was first created by the distant galaxy. 

    By looking at the current state of a beam of light, we can infer what the galaxy that created the light looked like millions of years ago.

    Conclusion

    This means that when we point our telescopes into space, we can see what it was like in earlier times, even if we can’t see it now.

    This allows astronomers to see the entire evolution of the universe since the Big Bang.

    We are actually experiencing this phenomenon every moment. So no matter how hard we try, we will not be able to prevent our perception and knowledge from lagging behind what is happening in the universe.

    That’s fine. Still, late knowledge is better than no knowledge!

  • James Webb Telescope Taken The Deepest Image of the Universe

    James Webb Telescope Taken The Deepest Image of the Universe

    Why the James Webb Space Telescope is important and what we will see soon?

    The US Aeronautics and Space Agency (NASA) has shared the deepest image of the universe ever captured by the James Webb Space Telescope.

    The James Webb Space Telescope is expected to be the main observing instrument of the next decade.

    Its mission will be to determine the masses of planets and other masses in the Universe by measuring their spectra. With its detectors and instruments, the James Webb Space Telescope can observe a wide and deep area.

    Since Hubble orbits the Earth, a space shuttle was sufficient for its launch.

    Since the James Webb Telescope, which needs to reach the L2 point, will not be able to go on a shuttle, an Ariane 5 rocket will be used for its launch.

    After reaching the L2 point in a period of 30 days, the James Webb Telescope will not remain stationary.

    As the Earth orbits around the Sun, the James Webb Telescope will move with it.

    In this way, it is expected to enable observations that can shed light on the formation of the universe.

    In particular, it is aimed to capture the afterglow of the Big Bang and the signals of the developments in the universe.

    The James Webb Space Telescope will also be used to observe the formation of the universe and galaxies, and to monitor whether Earth-like habitable planets have formed.

    The telescope, which collects images about 1.5 million kilometres from Earth, opens the door to the mysteries of space.

    The product of NASA’s collaboration with the European and Canadian space agencies, Webb is seen as the successor to the Hubble Space Telescope, the largest and most powerful telescope ever built, but 31 years old and nearing the end of its working life.

    The first colour images released after the completion of Webb’s 6-month preparation period will represent the beginning of future science missions.

    It was reported that the telescope, which opens the door to the mysteries of space, was able to capture “clear and well-focused” images and exhibited optical performance above expectations.

    Known as the most advanced space telescope to date, James Webb’s images are important for the formation of the universe and the discovery of other habitable planets.

    By capturing the light of the first stars that formed after the Big Bang 13.5 billion years ago, the telescope is intended to study all stages of the history of the universe.

    While many parts of the James Webb Telescope are powered by solar energy, some parts run on fuel, which will eventually run out.

    And because of its remoteness, there is no recommendation to change the fuel.

    Therefore, the expected lifetime of the James Webb Telescope seems to be 5 to 10 years; that is, whenever the fuel runs out.

  • 8 Ways To Cope With Death Anxiety

    8 Ways To Cope With Death Anxiety

    Some suggestions to buffer death anxiety (Death Anxiety)

    Death Anxiety – Facing the reality of death as we age is one of the challenges we all face. Nowadays, avoiding the reality of death, the “avoidance attitude”, is the most popular way of coping. 

    However, we should be aware that some of the usual ways of coping can create existential anxiety and rob us of our quality of life.

    In the face of mortality, it is important to have a “buffer system” to maintain our psychological serenity and cope with death anxiety (Routledge & Vess, 2019; Juhl, 2019).

    Here are some suggestions to buffer death anxiety:

    1. Creating meaning


    According to Terror/Fear Management Theory (TMT), having a sense that one’s own life has meaning, or that life, in general, has meaning, enables the individual to live with an awareness of death and without fear. When people do something important that fulfils their soul, they have no time to worry about death. Therefore, it is important to clarify one’s deepest personal values and to serve them in one’s life. Research suggests that any source of feeling meaningful (such as work, relationships, science and faith) should serve an important personal value.

    2. A change in priorities


    Death anxiety motivates us to be creative. We accomplish more when time is limited. Mortality inspires us to live interesting and meaningful lives. It causes us to choose our priorities and live more effective lives. If we were immortal, we could rightly postpone our every action forever. It wouldn’t matter whether we do something now or tomorrow.

    3. Authentic presence


    Authenticity is the feeling that one is “one’s own”. And it includes one’s own values, preferences, goals, decisions and actions. Awareness of death also triggers the desire to focus on what is truly important to oneself. Pursuing inner goals is a solid buffer against death anxiety.

    4. Productivity


    A form of symbolic immortality, the term generativity can be seen as an expression of going beyond our own existence to leave behind a positive legacy. Productivity can transform the fear of death into a feeling of deep contentment.

    5. Acceptance


    As humans, we have a biased view of life and death. We see death as something that separates us from life (i.e. all our material and spiritual possessions). Some ancient teachings talk about how we suffer because we are attached to temporary/temporal things in an ever-changing life. The way to put an end to our suffering is actually to cut our attachment to mortal/temporary things. For example, wealth, power, etc. That way, we no longer fear death because we have nothing to lose.

    6. A cognitive-behavioural approach


    Our emotional lives are shaped by our beliefs and values. The observer influences the “observed reality”. By developing the capacity to choose how we interpret life and death, we can free ourselves from negative emotions. Stoic teachings suggest that we focus on what we can control and adopt an attitude of not worrying about what we cannot control. Knowing that you are doing the best you can in the circumstances leads to a cool and calm acceptance of everything (life and death).

    7. Exposure


    The most powerful way to deal with the fear of death is to face it rather than avoid it. 

    Research on anxiety reduction shows that exposure to feared situations is one of the fastest and most effective solutions. 

    In the context of death anxiety, this involves practising exposure to death-related topics. 

    For example, regularly reading obituaries in the newspaper, reading literary accounts of death and grief, writing a will, planning funeral arrangements, imagining one’s own death, writing eulogies about how one would like to be remembered after one’s death, etc. 

    These exercises can be very helpful in reducing death anxiety.

    Yalom (2008) states that to face one’s own death fully consciously (both in thoughts and feelings) is to overcome death anxiety.

    8. You are important to others


    The human need for the material world is universal. The feeling of being needed and important by others enhances meaning in our lives. 

    Moreover, how an individual’s interpersonal relationships reflect their capacity to adapt to life and their ability to increase their self-worth.

    The deep and close bonds you form with your loved ones, and the level of fulfilment you feel in your relationships, play an important role in the level of your death anxiety. 

  • What Is Gaslighting and Its Importance In Relationships?

    What Is Gaslighting and Its Importance In Relationships?

    Secret Type of Manipulation In Relationships

    Gaslighting is the conscious manipulation and control of an individual’s perspective over an extended period of time. 

    It is an attempt to make someone doubt their understanding of reality, to make them believe that they cannot trust their perceptions and judgments about reality. In other words, it is a form of psychological abuse. 

    The term Gaslighting is based on the theatre play Gas Light, which was performed in 1938. 

    In this play, the male character makes some attempts to make his wife doubt his sanity. 

    He does this by telling his wife that although he dims the light of the gas lamp over time when she says that the light has decreased, the light of the gas lamp has not decreased, and the light has remained the same. 

    Thus, his wife begins to believe that the gas lamp is not dimming, but she cannot make sense of the room getting darker and darker. At the end of the day, the woman is pushed into thoughts that she is going crazy.

    What are the stages of Gaslighting?

    We can state that it has three stages. These are

    1. Idealization
    2. Devaluation
    3. Discreditation

    1. In the Idealization stage

    The dominant person in the relationship idealizes the other and attributes an admirable status to the person who will be victimized. 

    They attempt to construct a perception that their relationship is perfect. The direction of this admiration turns into a more intense admiration for the other, i.e. the person who is gaslighting.

    2. In the devaluation stage

    The person who previously aroused feelings of admiration turns into someone who cannot do anything, who is useless. 

    The person now perceives themselves as worthless, as the problematic party. At the beginning of the relationship, the person who was confident, happy and thought he/she was worthy becomes doubtful about his/her self-esteem after manipulative behaviours. In this situation, he/she sees himself/herself in desperate efforts not to lose the other and to make things work in the relationship.

    3. Discreditation is the last stage of the gaslighting process. 

    The manipulator discards the other person and seeks other victims. The gaslighted person sees themselves in a position of apologizing in order not to be abandoned.

    As can be understood from all stages, first of all, trust and love are gained. The victimized person is included in a painful process by being made to doubt himself/herself by the person he/she loves and trusts. 

    Then, dependency develops on the gaslighting perpetrator and the power of influence intensifies and weakens the other person. 

    The most important factor in gaslighting is that the psychological abuse continues until it has the desired effect on the perpetrator. 

    Over time, the person becomes hostile to their own perceptions and relinquishes control to the other person. As a result, initiative skills such as decision-making are damaged.

    Examples of Gaslighting 

    People who are being gaslighted are usually not aware of it during the relationship. They normalize the situation that this may be the nature of their current relationship. 

    However, they may be warned about certain issues by those around them. It is not easy to recognize the existence of this manipulation. For example:

    You find yourself constantly apologizing for something you did not do,
    If the other person keeps saying, “I never said such a thing to you”,

    If he/she shows you insulting words or behaviour and then reacts by saying, “You made me do this, it’s all your fault that I am the way I am.”

    If he/she doesn’t understand your sadness and resentment and takes your emotions down by saying, “You are exaggerating too much, if others see you like this, they will think you are mentally ill.”

    When you are having an argument even though you are right, you are constantly resorting to lies to save the moment, just so that the other person does not get more angry, just so that the tension ends as soon as possible.

    You may be a victim of gaslighting if you are constantly beating yourself up for not being good enough, for saying “I am not good enough, I am always the one who makes mistakes and this will not change” even though you are good enough.

    When we look at the characteristics of those who practice gaslighting, we see that they are actually very weak, inadequate and worthless. 

    Precisely because of these characteristics, they resort to devaluing and disempowering one another. 

    We can briefly explain their purpose of Gaslighting in this way.

    How to deal with Gaslighting in a relationship?


    In the light of the information we have given above, if you think that you are exposed to similar things in your own relationships, the first thing to do is to realize that what you are experiencing is gaslighting. 

    The next step is to face the reality of what you are experiencing. Some victims may want to stay in the relationship, believing that there may be healing steps to give the relationship another chance, and may not end it. 

    However, they cannot improve the situation by being in a relationship that makes the individual so doubtful about their self-worth and perception of reality. 

    For this reason, if you have difficulty ending your relationship with such dynamics, you can get support from a mental health professional. 

  • 8 Dispensable Things That Cause Mostly Feel Hungry

    8 Dispensable Things That Cause Mostly Feel Hungry

    This may be the main reason why many people gain weight. Feel Hungry

    1. You may be eating too many refined carbohydrates.

    Feel Hungry – This type of carbohydrate, which we call “refined”, is found in many foods such as pastries and junk food. When you consume these foods, you feel hungry again after a short time.

    This is because these foods do not contain fibre, so they are digested quickly.

    If you want to stay full for a long time, you can choose foods with fibre that take longer to digest.

    For example, vegetables and whole grains are good options.

    2. You may not be consuming enough protein.

    If you don’t include enough protein in your meals, it is normal to feel hungry all the time.

    Protein foods suppress hunger and curb your appetite.

    If you include protein foods on your plate, you will notice that you feel less hungry.

    3. You may not be eating enough healthy fats.

    Consuming too much fat can be a problem for your health while consuming too little can upset the balance in your body.

    When you consume healthy fats, you prolong the digestion time of food. This means that food stays in your stomach longer. You feel full for longer.

    4. You may be eating your food too fast.

    Consuming your meals quickly increases your appetite, causes weight gain and makes you hungry quickly.

    Give your food the time it deserves.
    Enjoy the pleasure of eating.

    5. You may not be drinking enough water.

    Take care to consume enough water for your body so that your digestive system can work in a healthy way. 

    According to research, those who drink enough water feel fuller during the day. It’s also a bit strange, but your brain can sometimes confuse hunger and thirst.

    In summary, remember to drink enough water to control your appetite.

    6. You may want to eat because you are stressed.

    We know that anxiety and anxiety disorders have many effects on our bodies. One of these effects is the constant desire to eat.

    When we feel stressed, our body releases the hormone cortisol.

    This makes us feel hungry.

    Try to manage the stress in your life through sports or new hobbies.

    7. Your regular medication may be affecting your appetite.

    In particular, medications for diabetes, antidepressants or mood stabilizers can make you feel hungry all the time because they contain substances such as cortisone, insulin, clozapine or olanzapine.

    If you notice that you regularly gain weight after taking a new medication and you feel hungry all the time, be sure to contact your doctor.

    8. You may not be getting enough sleep.

    Ghrelin, also known as the appetite hormone, is controlled by our brain.

    If you are not getting enough sleep, you cannot expect your brain to function properly.

  • The Most Mysterious Number In The Universe

    The Most Mysterious Number In The Universe

    It’s a number that all physicists have somewhere on their whiteboards (Mysterious Number)

    It was a number that was on the radar of almost all the great physicists.(Mysterious Number)

    Paul Dirac once called it “the biggest unsolved problem in physics”.

    There’s even a joke about it that is told about physicists. They say that if you are a thief and you are trying to unlock a physicist’s briefcase, the first number you have to break into is 137

    Indeed it is, it’s a number that all physicists have somewhere on their whiteboards. It also puzzles them all.

    From a numerical point of view, the fine structure constant is denoted by “Alpha”, the first letter of the Greek alphabet. It gives a result very, very close to 1/137. It is usually found in all the formulas governing light and matter. Without it, many formulas are incomplete and incomplete.

    Eric Cornell of the University of Colorado, also a Nobel Prize-winning physicist, said, “It’s like the golden ratio, like in architecture.” And he continued. “In the physics of low-energy matter like atoms, molecules, chemistry and biology, there is always a ratio. The ratio of big things to small things. And when you look at these ratios, you see that they are all multiples of 1/137 of the Fine structure.”

    Isn’t that weird?

    Let’s take a look at where this constant comes from and where it is found, and then let’s try to understand from many different angles why this constant and the constants that govern our universe are important.

    First of all, you know, we have talked a lot about quantum physics in our videos. The electrons in the atom exist at certain energy levels rather than orbits. 

    When you think of these energy levels as packets, there are certain, fixed energy levels to which an electron can belong. This is the basic logic of quantum. It can’t be in between, it’s either on one level or the other.

    But when you get a little closer and look carefully at these packages, these energy levels, you see that they are also divided into much more delicate levels. It’s like Inception. The cascades within cascades. Energy levels within energy levels.

    So far it’s already strange, but what’s even stranger is when we look here.

    The interval between the energy levels here is much finer, much more precisely measured. That’s what they call fine structure, delicate or fine structure.

    And when we look at these intervals more carefully and measure them, you know what we find?

    These intervals are calculated exactly as the square of the number of protons in the nucleus of the atom times the precision structure constant.

    No matter where you look, no matter which atom you look at. This is the situation. Fine structure equals protons squared times the fine structure constant.

    Not only here. It appears in the strangest places.

    I’ll tell you about it.

    It’s one of the most damned mysteries in physics. It’s the most magical number in the universe that we know nothing about.

    Richard Feynman put it this way. the “fine structure” constant.

    We may actually have a key. Some special numbers or constants can unlock the mysteries of the universe, secrets waiting to be solved.

    Another great aesthetic about this number is that it doesn’t need any units, as I mentioned at the beginning.

    It is a pure number.

    And you know what the best thing is?

    We’re always trying. We want to unify the forces in the universe, we want to unify that one force. 137 gives us that too. The speed of light, the electric charge carried by an electron and Planck’s constant. So relativity is where electromagnetism and quantum mechanics meet.

    It’s like this;

    Alpha equals e2, where e is the electron charge, divided by h bar, which is Planck’s constant times 2 pi, times c, the speed of light, as we see in the Heisenberg uncertainty principle.

    The result of these. Yes, 1/137.

    Actually, to put it precisely; 1/137,03599913.

    Conclusion

    If you want to understand nature, you must first understand these rules.

    Sometimes as humans we feel like we are the masters of nature. The best answer to this is that we can understand as much as nature allows us to.

  • Silva Method – Change Your Life

    Silva Method – Change Your Life

    Silva Method – This method is better than my expectations (Silva Method)

    Silva Method is based on scientific research and was developed by José Silva, an American of Mexican origin, after 22 years of research between 1944 and 1966. 

    The Silva Method has been translated into 36 different languages to date and has been taught in 118 countries since 1966. More than 40 books have been written about the method and it has been the source of much personal development training. 

    It is taught as a course in 56 universities around the world. As of today, there are more than 6 million Silva Method graduates all over the world, although their number is increasing day by day.

    Change Your Life with Silva Method!


    Easy to apply;
    The method consists of 24 scientifically proven mind exercises and is very easy to apply. As all things easy and simple are more impressive, so is the Silva Method. It is extremely easy to apply and practical, and when you apply it to your life, you are sure to get results.

    What it is based on
    The Silva Method is based on how you think, your beliefs and behaviours that influence your life experiences.
    The aim of the Silva Method is to teach you how to use your brain more and how to develop the hidden abilities of your mind. At the same time, it awakens and develops the potential inherent in human nature. In the training, self-hypnosis is taught using the language of hypnosis.
    You Hold the Key to Your Happiness;
    When you succeed in controlling your thoughts, you will be happier by consciously shaping your life.


    You shape your destiny with your own hands;

    How? With your choices.

    How? With your thoughts.

    How? With your mind.

    Nothing is impossible. We perform miracles with our minds and only we human beings can do it. That’s why we say that the entire responsibility of our life is in our hands.


    This is not magic; this is the Silva Method


    Step by step with the practices, you realize that your ability to focus increases, your creativity increases with the information coming into your mind, and at the same time your thinking expands (your awareness increases). As a result, you experience and perceive that you can solve your problems with better quality and creative ideas. You can develop your hidden “Sensory Reflection” ability only with the Silva Method.


    A Better Quality of Life


    Millions of people say that with the Silva Method they have discovered the incredible power of their minds to positively change their lives, realize their dreams, get rid of various chronic diseases, do better in exams, find the job they desire and improve their quality of life.
    The key to the success of Silva Method training is that it helps you to create an energetic, vibrant and powerful thinking system by freeing you from limiting beliefs that prevent you from unlocking your full potential. It is dynamic training.

    The Silva Method Seminar, consisting of a total of 24 mind techniques, is given in 2 Parts: 

    Silva Life System (Part I) and Silva Intuition System (Part II). This mental work takes place at the Alpha level, where the brain functions with imagination and imagery. However, since the vast majority of people (95%) sleep at this level, they cannot function in the right hemisphere of their brain by remaining conscious at the Alpha level. Therefore, they cannot take advantage of this amazing functionality of the brain at this level, which is the most suitable level for finding solutions to problems. With the first exercises, students first learn how to enter the Alpha level by slowing down their brain waves and how to function in the right hemisphere of the brain by staying conscious and not sleeping at this level.


    With each progressive technique, one’s sense of faith and trust is triggered and one experiences and perceives an increased ability to control one’s mind. As the program progresses, the person gradually realizes that his/her ability to focus increases, the information coming into his/her mind increases, and his/her thinking expands. As a result, the person perceives that they can solve their problems with better quality and creative ideas.

    As a result of this dynamic training

    Completely relax in a few seconds,
    Recognize and change the many limiting beliefs stored in their subconscious minds,
    to get rid of all stress-related health problems by activating personal healing powers,
    To make the right decisions,
    Change unwanted habits such as smoking, drinking alcohol, overeating,
    Clear destructive patterns of emotion and behaviour, if any,
    To be more effective in their relationships,
    To reach their goals more easily, to achieve the results they desire,
    To increase their mental capacity,
    To strengthen their memory,
    To bring realistic and innovative solutions to their problems,
    Complete freedom from sleep problems and quality sleep,
    To develop creative skills,
    Use their time properly
    Increase their motivation,
    To become more positive individuals,
    In short, they manage to take control of their lives and improve their quality of life on a universal scale.

    Why is Advanced Thinking Ability important?

    Everything you do starts with a thought. If you set out to achieve a new goal with your old thinking habits, your chances of success are only a possibility. It takes a new way of thinking to seize new opportunities and succeed.

    Times are changing and this change is happening very fast. You are also aware of this. Today, one’s success depends on the ability to adapt to new conditions. In nature, it is not strong that survive, but the organisms that are flexible, that leave the old behind and accept the new.

    According to contemporary scientific data, an ordinary person cannot focus his or her mind on any one thought for more than 6 to 11 seconds. According to Harvard University research, this is the most important reason why people fail to achieve their goals.

    A fleeting thought cannot be programmed.
    A mind that constantly shifts to other thoughts cannot be programmed.
    A thought that is blocked by limiting beliefs cannot be programmed.
    Negative thoughts, anxieties and low self-esteem cancel the thought, making it unprogrammable.
    Our mind needs at least 30 seconds to program a thought.
    Silva Method techniques help you in this sense.

    To focus on a particular thought for a longer period of time (at least 30 seconds),


    Developing and strengthening the perception
    The Silva Method is the most modern and effective mental training method for utilizing the unlimited possibilities of the brain. It is for people who want to take control of their lives and ‘produce’ the results they desire.

    “The Silva Method is a ‘tool’ you can use to bring about the changes you desire. I highly recommend it.” Dr. Wayne Dryer, Psychologist — Author

    Silva Life System (Part 1):

    With the first exercises, students first learn to enter the Alpha level by slowing down their brain waves and staying conscious and not sleeping at this level and being functional in the right hemisphere of the brain. Thus, the body and mind relax and stress control is achieved.

    With the next exercises, the effective information synthesis mechanism, in other words, the imagination, is activated to be used in problem-solving. What happened in the past provides us with information. Logic analyzes the information obtained. But the imagination deals with what needs to be done. Decisions are made by utilizing this magnificent functionality of the brain at the Alpha level, which is the most suitable level for finding solutions to problems.

    By changing the limiting beliefs that prevent success with other exercises, the brain is reprogrammed in alpha and theta frequencies with the selected solutions and creativity is developed.

    Silva Intuition System (Part 2):

    With the mental techniques here, intuition is developed and strengthened. As a result of training in intuition development techniques, people gain awareness that their brains are not only receivers and transmitters of thought waves, but that they can also use extrasensory information and influence and change this information. Our brain is an advanced information network — the Internet.

    It can provide information beyond stored information. The way the brain works allows for original thinking and real and innovative solutions to problems. By getting rid of limiting beliefs that hinder success and not being dependent on the past, through sensory reflection exercises, innovative and creative decisions can be made and the right choices can be made. Successful people are those who have a broad perceptive ability.

    They also gain the ability to connect to Source Energy, discover the mission of existence so that they can live a life with purpose, and master case studies to discover abnormalities in the human body and bring them back to normal.

    Techniques such as the Mental Screen, Mind Mirror and Laboratory help the mind to focus on a thought. Repeated positive suggestions, techniques to change limiting beliefs, and mental cleansing achieved by deleting negative words and phrases from our memory, help the mind to easily make the connections necessary to bring thoughts to life and eliminate obstacles on this path. Dream Control, the Three Fingers and a Glass of Water Technique, and the Laboratory and Guides are the ‘keys’ to opening our mind’s ‘files’ and gathering the information needed to succeed.

    Conclusion

    The Silva Method has been practised for forty years by people of different religions, cultures and understandings, living in different social environments, with success in all 180 countries. Over this long period of time, there is one fact witnessed by people who have changed their lives by applying the techniques they have learned.

  • Why Time Flies Too Fast?

    Why Time Flies Too Fast?

    How We Can Stop The Time – Time Flies

    This is one of the most frequently asked questions by most of us, both to ourselves and to those around us.

    In this article, I will both ask myself why time passes so quickly and try to give myself answers.

    Let me first start by giving some information: a day is 24 hours, 1,440 minutes, or 86,400 seconds long.

    This number will always remain the same unless someone says let’s make a day 25 hours.

    In other words, time has a certain flow, it does not have the luxury of slowing down or speeding up.

    But why do we have such a thought?

    Why does time pass so quickly…

    In fact, you are both right and wrong, time passes both slowly and quickly.

    The flow of time can seem fast or slow, depending on what you’re doing and how you’re feeling.

    If you got up late today and you have less than an hour left, the time you have left will pass much faster than yesterday.

    You will realize that even your routine tasks such as waking up, waking up, having breakfast, cleaning the house take a lot of time.

    When you finish all your work and look at the clock, you will realize that you have little time to go out and walk around or do some shopping.

    That’s why you should get up as early as possible to use more time than a 24-hour day.

    If you are alone anywhere, time will pass slowly. If you are waiting for something or working on something, time will pass slowly.

    There was even a song from previous years, I remember. “The clock is always slow at work,” was singed.

    Time will pass quickly if you have a lot of work to do and need to grow something.

    If you are in a place you love, with the people you love, time will pass quickly.

    As you can see, the rate of flow of time depends on many variables.

    Speaking of variables, let me try to answer the frequently spoken issues about time:

    People say that after a certain age, time passes very quickly, even that they cannot keep up with the speed of time.

    One of the biggest reasons for this is; It is the transition to a fixed order and continuing our lives within the framework of this routine.

    When you do the same or similar things every day, even if we think that time passes slowly during what we do; When we look back, we realize that the days, weeks, months and even years pass quickly.

    Even though we think that time passes quickly when we add a little color to our lives and do different things; When we look back, we think that we had a full and enjoyable time.

    Non-routine activities such as trying new things, getting to know new people and spending time with them, seeing new places will help you to intervene and take control of the fast flow of time for you.

    This is one of the most important reasons why time passes slowly for children.

    Many things they encounter in their daily lives mean new experiences and things that require them to learn and improve themselves.

    A person learns and should learn new things every moment throughout his life. However, after a while, the pace of learning slows down, and from that day on, time begins to pass quickly for that person.

    Let me give a little example from myself. As of now, I am 41 years old and started working full time at the age of 25.

    While I remember a lot from my college years, very little remains in my memory from other 16 years.

    Working life inevitably traps people in a boring and suffocating routine.

    You don’t have many options to do something new and to find solutions against time.

    That’s why most of people still have a lot of dreams that they haven’t been able to fulfill.

    Our biggest excuse for these is that I have little time.

    I think the speed of time also depends on what we experience.

    While I am working or lying in bed with the flu, time will never pass for me.

    Conclusion;

    If you are aware, what you read did nothing but confuse your mind. So Let me at least make the finale good.

    Time will pass quickly for some, quick for others, one way or another.

    But it’s up to you to have a good time and make use of the time given to you.

  • Drive Sleep Away – How to Hack Your Brain To ?

    Drive Sleep Away – How to Hack Your Brain To ?

    Drive Sleep Away – You can try this easy method instead of drinking harmful stuff

    We observe closely every day through our computers and smartphones: Every machine that runs (Drive Sleep Away) smoothly runs out of battery at some point. In fact, the functioning of our body is no different from this.

    We need to be recharged in order not to get sick and exhausted, to maintain our brain functions, in short, to be able to live.
    That’s called sleep.

    Sleep is a period in which we spend about a third of our life, but it is very necessary for our survival and we must live physiologically.

    Because sleep is really a period that is necessary for us to prepare for the day, for us to see the activities that are necessary when we are awake.

    During sleep, some functions are performed that we do not perform in wakefulness.

    What, for example, the formation of memory, the formation of some immune mechanisms, the fulfillment of some Cardiac, cardiac and brain-related functions, all these functions actually occur in a single sleep.

    Therefore, sleep is a very important period of our life, a period that must be experienced.

    Do you want to learn how you can wake up by hacking your brain in 10 seconds?

    The desire to sleep at unwanted times is one of the problems we all experience frequently.

    It can happen to us anytime, in a meeting, an exam, a job interview, or at any time and place.

    The reasons for this can be health problems, a tired day, a sleepless night, or many things.

    Many of us try to wake up by consuming liquids containing caffeine in these and similar situations, in fact, this works and after a while, we wake up after consuming liquids or foods containing caffeine.

    Well, if we are not in a place to consume caffeine-containing food and we do not have that much time, what can we do?

    In such cases, I will talk about a method that will work just fine.

    I use this method frequently in my daily life and see its benefits.

    When you feel sleepy and want to combat it.

    Raise your head to the top and breathe in and out deeply for 10 seconds, focusing on one point.

    Yes, that’s all you have to do, you will see the effect immediately and you will be able to solve your sleep problem immediately.

    Although it looks very simple, it is a very useful and working method.
    Try it and please share in the comments if it works.

  • 3 True Horror Stories That Will Make You Sleepless When You Read It

    3 True Horror Stories That Will Make You Sleepless When You Read It

    The stories you watch in horror movies are sometimes fictional and sometimes real (Horror Stories)

    However, the stories you are about to read are completely learned from my friends when I was young. (Horror Stories)

    If you enjoy watching horror movies and telling each other horror stories when you’re with friends or alone, these stories are for you! All the horror stories that will give you goosebumps when you read them are real.

    Let’s see if you can continue to sit comfortably at home when you read these stories.

    1. Horrible Harassment

    In this story, there is a young boy whose name is Mehmet. 

    Mehmet is my childhood friend and the son of our next-door neighbour.

    When Mehmet was younger, he was delivering newspapers to a woman named Ayse.

    She was very old and Mehmet was delivering the newspaper and putting it in front of her.

    Mehmet came in one day and Ayse was sleeping on the bed, so Mehmet went in and put the newspaper on the table and left the house.

    The next day, Ayse was asleep again, and the newspaper was still unopened. But the day after, Ayse was awake and hugged Mehmet, saying she was very happy.

    But the next day that followed, there were cars in front of her house.
    Apparently, Ayse died in her bed 3–4 days ago.

    Somehow Mehmet talked to Ayse and actually hugged Mehmet while she was dead!

    This is the story from my friend and we were not sure about this story is true or a lie.

    2. Vending Machine Ghost

    “I used to work in a port when I was at university and I was on night shifts most of the time.

    I went to the vending machine for a snack around 3 in the morning.

    Next to the vending machine was a glass door facing the cafeteria.

    I clearly saw someone enter the door.

    When I saw someone in the cafeteria, I remembered that there were sensor lights that were turned on, but these lights did not turn on, it was still dark inside.

    I went to take a closer look and saw people walking inside walking directly into a wall.

    I immediately ran out of there.

    I don’t remember ever running this fast in my life.

    3. The Crib Story

    “According to a story told by a friend’s mother, her little son was whining a lot one night when he was a baby, and that’s why his mother went to check on his crib.

    After coming to her room a few times, her mother was quite tired.

    When the baby started crying again, her mother got up to come into the room again, but at that moment she heard other footsteps and went crazy because her mother was alone there.

    When the footsteps stopped, her mother heard the swaying of the cradle and the voice of an old woman.

    This voice was trying to talk to him and calm him down.

    Pretty odd!

  • Important Question: Does She/He Really Love You?

    Important Question: Does She/He Really Love You?

    Those easy signals can help you to understand if someone – Really Love You

    Really Love You – Probably none of us mistook the friendly behaviour for flirting at some point.(Love You)

    So the job of being single and finding out who wants to hang out with can turn into a minefield.

    And when you start dating someone, nothing gets easier.

    For you, the first few dates may have been great, but before you know it, the other person may say that they are not really interested in you.

    So even in the early stages of dating, things can still be very tricky.

    I searched for the best relationship experts and psychologists about how you can tell if someone is really interested in you.

    1- They roll up their sleeves

    It may be hard to believe. But relationship coach and psychologist Jo Hemmings explains that rolling up on a date can be a subtle sign of interest. Especially among women.

    She says that “pulling the sleeves of a dress up or wearing clothes that leave the ankles open where the skin is the softest is often an expression of subconscious attraction,” she adds, adding that it signals our vulnerability to someone.

    2- You talk about ordinary things

    They will find an excuse to text you, says psychologist Madeleine Mason Roantree of dating agency The Vida Consultancy.

    She adds that the messages may be awkward or empty (like “I just got back from the park” or “It’s been a busy day”), but it bodes well and shows she would love to talk to you about anything.

    3- They remember what you said

    Hemmings says that if someone wants to meet you, they will remember your previous conversations.

    Whether it’s a small detail about the new coffee maker in the business or the location of your sister’s birthday party, people want to know more if they like you.

    4- Messages often end with a question

    If they end their messages to you with a question, no matter how uninspired (like “What did you have for lunch today?”), it’s a strong sign that they want to stay in touch with you.

    “It’s a desire to get you to talk to him,” says Mason.

    “People want to maintain a sense of connection by keeping the conversation going,” she adds.

    5- They change their body language to be closer to you

    Showing interest in body language is much more than maintaining eye contact (an often accepted sign of interest).

    Other gestures include bending over, crossing their legs, or standing with their bodies facing you, Hemmings says. “It shows that someone likes your presence,” adds Hemmings.

    6- They try to impress you

    Are they inviting you to flamboyant bars, a popular photography exhibition or a hit game?

    Mason says it’s not for show, they just want to impress you.

    “This type of behaviour can be hard to spot because you don’t know the general state of people,” he adds.

    But if they want to have fun with you and plan things to do together, it’s a clear statement that they want to win your love.

    7- After the appointment, you know when to see you again

    If you’ve had a good date if conversations are flowing and sparks are flying, you’ll be a source of excitement for people, Mason says.

    “When they spend time with you, their ‘happiness hormone’ levels, their dopamine, increase.

    People want more of that,” he explains.

    This is why right after you break up with someone you know when you will see them again; You will definitely keep it on your agenda.

    8- They can contact you at any time of the day

    “Messaging is often done for pragmatic reasons, or it can sometimes be out of habit or necessity,” says Hemmings.

    When someone is casually texting you, rather than planning or getting information about something, it shows that they are taking time to think about you.

    9- They tell you how they feel

    This may seem like an announcement of the known.

    But Mason points out that some people really stand up and say they like you.

    “To say this openly is to ensure a long-lasting and special relationship with you,” the psychologist adds.

  • Micro Facial Expressions That Only Successful People Understand

    Micro Facial Expressions That Only Successful People Understand

    The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said (Facial Expressions)

    Although body language education basically starts with what the classical body postures mean, as you progress, the details of micro-expressions begin to gain importance.(Facial Expressions)

    In the study carried out by Bristol (UK) University researchers, the relationship between identifying emotion in ambiguous facial expressions and aggressive thoughts and behaviours was investigated;

    The effect of recognizing emotions in facial expressions on both healthy adults and adolescents at high risk of delinquency has been observed.

    “The human body is the best picture of the human soul.” –Ludwig Wittgenstein

    In the study in which happy, angry, or emotionally uncertain facial expressions were shown to the volunteers, the participants were asked to describe the expressions as “happy” or “angry”.

    Thus, it was observed how “angry” they defined ambiguous expressions, thus creating a point of departure.

    The researchers then prompted the participants to reevaluate some of the vague expressions they previously described as “angry”, saying that some of them were actually “happy”.

    The first 40 adults, in the group, were able to identify happiness indicators in ambiguous expressions.

    Adults who can define happiness have lower anger and aggression levels.

    However, the situation is different for 46 adolescents in the experimental group.

    Adolescents who could not define happiness expressions and were referred to a rehabilitation program from various institutions due to the risk of committing a crime were trained to recognize happiness in facial expressions.

    Aggressive behaviour tendency and subjective anger evaluations decreased in those receiving education.

    Recognizing emotion is key to changing anger and aggressive behaviour. These results may change the future of studies on the prevention of anger and aggression.

    Then now let’s check feelings from micro expressions…

    #1- Happiness

    • The cheek rises.
    • Lip edges are pulled upwards.
    • The corners of the eyes are wrinkled.
    • The forehead is straight and the eyebrows are fixed.

    #2- Stress or Sadness

    • Stress on the eyebrow part of the face: The middle part of the eyebrow is raised, giving the eyebrow a curved appearance.
    • The eyebrow is in the form of a line, but only the medial (middle) part has become a line.
    • The eyebrows are also united.

    This causes inward-U-shaped wrinkles around the eyebrows, also known as “Darwin’s grief muscle”.

    If the eyebrow is completely raised, it appears as a whole line.

    #3- Contempt, Disgust, Disapproval

    There are two kinds of indicators for disgust.

    • First, the nose is wrinkled. In the second, the upper lip rises. A possible indicator of humiliation is the dimple muscle.
    • Another is to roll the eyes.

    #4- Sadness

    • Sadness can look like stress on the upper part of the face.
    • Note that down the face: Are the corners of the mouth pulled down?
    • Here, make sure that this expression is not a permanent expression that is always present on the face.

    Sadness may also be manifested by the combination of two locomotion units that raise the cheeks and are evident by the wrinkling around the eyes and are also associated with lip rim depression.

    Ekman, Levenson, and Friesen (1983) added the following to sadness at this point: looking down, chin lifting, cheeks lifting, and lip cornering.

    #5- Anger

    • The lip and chin area of ​​the face is important in expressing anger.
    • The red side of the lips is pulled inward so that the lips are stretched and narrowed.
    • This can also be seen on just one lip. Or the lips may be pressed against each other without the chin being lifted upwards.
    • This tightens and narrows the lips.
    • The chin may also be shrunken. The chin rises, wrinkles and gives the mouth a slightly inverted-U shape.
    • If the anger is severe, the lower lip may be twisted as if it were resentful.

    #6- Fear

    • Fear signals may be evident in the mouth.
    • In fear, the mouth may open to varying degrees (ie, lips are split, the chin is low, or the mouth is tight).
    • Fear Brow Only the middle part of the eyebrow is furrowed horizontally.
    • Horizontal lines do not extend across the entire eyebrow. These are expressions of stress or fear.

    As you can see, people show a lot of micro expressions when they communicate.

    If you can read them, it is inevitable that you will be successful in both your private and business life.